Is anyone here obsessed with trying to look more attractive?

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If the bald spot isn't very big, draw some hair on it everyday with an eyebrow pencil that matches your hair color.

Not me. I like myself, as I am. I used to be obsessed with that, though.

Eew, no!

See, I grew up with a mother who was obsessed with looks. She wanted me to be thin, immaculately groomed, spend hours on my hair, and have a well-scrubbed English rose complexion. I'm big like my dad, have olive skin from the Italians way back in the family, and can think of a hundred places I'd rather be than in front of a mirror.

I do the hygiene stuff - showering, deodorant, teeth and so forth. I have my hair dyed red and cut in a wash-it-and-leave-it style. I wear eyeliner and lippy when I feel like it. And when I want to, which is not that often, I do dress up. But, I prefer the freedom of it being optional. I'm sitting here barefaced in ripped jeans and an old guy's singlet - from a thrift store, like most of my clothes, because I despise the idea of wearing the same as everyone else just because some stupid magazine says so.

Re shirts, Social_Fantom, I have one that says 'Buy nothing, you are OK as you are'. I like to walk through store cosmetic departments in it wondering when they'll throw me out...

I am. I am trying to get down to 160 pounds (I am about 190 pounds now).

I wouldn't say obsessed, but I was treated a lot better by people after I started caring about how I looked and then doing something about it.

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Well yes and no.

Sometimes I like to look my best but there are limits. I don't tolerate cetain clothers that are uncomfortable. I figure what's the use of trying to look a certain way if you can't enjoy it.

As for trying to be attractive. Doesn't everyone want to be that way. My only problem is I like to do a lot of stuff that doesn't require being in a building all day. So, on one hand I'd luv to have my hair a certain way and wear something "sexy" on the other hand it doesn't go along with the physical and creative stuff I like to do outdoors as well as in.

I've come to a realization that if I'm wanting to look as good as those girls do who are styled from top to bottom....would I be willing to give up my other time consuming hobbies?

In one note....I can relate to Nico even thought I don't think there's anything wrong with her. There's a lot of stuff I hate about me.....but I don't think I'd want to spend that kind of money for something that will temporarily make me happy. However I'd be lying if I say I wasn't. I think you have to have what I would call "attractive personalities" besides the looks. Being attractive might do some things for you like getting a job as a model but when finding a mate.....I've come to an understanding that good self-esteem and some charisma is what does it. Something I mostly wish I had more than looks.

I care too much about my appearance. It's horrible.

I can't help but have a bad day if I don't like my outfit, or if my hair doesn't look good. Makeup I could care less about, it just makes you feel more attractive.

I'm slowly becoming the fashion major stereotype. Somebody help me!

I just don't care, as much as I used to. I used to diet, wear my hair, Mod style, dress up no matter where I'd go, shine my Beatle boots. I look back and ask myself why I've made myself so uncomfortable. Nowadays, I spike my hair, put on blue jeans and a red T-shirt and a pair of white shoes.