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Enceladus
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10 Oct 2017, 11:44 am

Froya wrote:

So here is a question:

Do you think not loving yourself has an impact on ones ability to care for and feel love for others?

Yes it has an impact I think. You might love others but the ability to care for them might be affected if you mistreat yourself or have low self esteem.

But then again I have commitment issues. I might not me the right person to provide any answer.

I'm kind of confused about this whole thing of how I'm supposed think about my closest relationships, like friends and family. I have always thought there has been something wrong with me when it comes to forming relationships. Something about the way I'm able to move along and forgetting about people. Kind of like I'm the only one real person in this world and everyone else just disappears when I can't see them. I know this is crazy and not the way it is but it's the feeling I have. And so far in life I've left a lot of people behind either moving to other places or just closing the people off by isolating myself. I'm just now starting to get some friends that feel real to me and I'm unsure how I should respond to that. I can only think of being honest about my commitment issues and try to explain this to the people that get close to me.

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10 Oct 2017, 12:17 pm

AHHHH... FFS.. I'm done.

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10 Oct 2017, 2:05 pm

^

I don't understand any of this.
It's doing my head in how one comment on my part can be injected with deeper meaning that didn't even enter my head.
If I hit a sore point I'm sorry.
I don't know what else to say.
If there's anything I can do to make it better, I would do it.
I wish I could erase what caused you pain, but unfortunately the world doesn't work like that.

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10 Oct 2017, 2:13 pm

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Good morning, everyone. I'm working on illustrations for my book. There's going to be five or six, one for each section.

Mum's feeling a little better. She frustrated that she can't do much.

That's good.
Did the rib break or pop out of its cartledge?
That's what happened to mine - it popped out and was like that for months before it was picked up by a chiropractor.
It didn't really hurt that much, just an uncomfortable, weird, 'full' feeling in my side, especially when I was sitting.

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10 Oct 2017, 3:02 pm

Communication is hard.
I think I'm doing well, but evidence points otherwise.
It's all my fault.
Clunky and confusing.
Ugh.

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10 Oct 2017, 3:06 pm

Raleigh wrote:

Communication is hard.
I think I'm doing well, but evidence points otherwise.
It's all my fault.
Clunky and confusing.
Ugh.

i think we just bumped into a very sensitive spot we had no way of knowing ahead of time that it even existed.

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10 Oct 2017, 3:07 pm

Enceladus wrote:

I'm kind of confused about this whole thing of how I'm supposed think about my closest relationships, like friends and family. I have always thought there has been something wrong with me when it comes to forming relationships. Something about the way I'm able to move along and forgetting about people. Kind of like I'm the only one real person in this world and everyone else just disappears when I can't see them. I know this is crazy and not the way it is but it's the feeling I have. And so far in life I've left a lot of people behind either moving to other places or just closing the people off by isolating myself. I'm just now starting to get some friends that feel real to me and I'm unsure how I should respond to that. I can only think of being honest about my commitment issues and try to explain this to the people that get close to me.

I can definitely relate to what you are saying here. I'm a very "out of sight, out of mind" person. Now, for the first time in my life, I'm actually trying to commit to friendships, and remain friends over time. I've also like you say warned people of commitment issues in the way that I've said that they should know that so far I've eventually left almost everyone I've ever got in contact with.

Have you been to that workspace/workshop yet (I don't remember what it was called...) Wasn't that this week?

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10 Oct 2017, 3:19 pm

Raleigh wrote:

Kuraudo7777 wrote:

Good morning, everyone. I'm working on illustrations for my book. There's going to be five or six, one for each section.

Mum's feeling a little better. She frustrated that she can't do much.

It actually broke.

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10 Oct 2017, 3:38 pm

Also, I'm making eleven illustrations for my book, Edge of Eternity! I'm done six, and I'll try to do one more today.
Some of them are in watercolour paints, others pencil crayons, others just a pencil, and a couple are a mixture of the three.

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10 Oct 2017, 3:39 pm

^ I would like to see them.

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10 Oct 2017, 3:49 pm

I'll see if I can take pictures of them some time before the weekend. Pictures of pictures.

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10 Oct 2017, 3:50 pm

images of photographs of paintings.

:wink:

i would like to see them also :nerdy:

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Enceladus
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10 Oct 2017, 3:59 pm

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Have you been to that workspace/workshop yet (I don't remember what it was called...) Wasn't that this week?

It's called a "makerspace"

No not yet. I just arrived home by night train today. I was supposed to make contact with the other two Aspies to arrange a time once I was home. But I'm a bit fatigued after the train ride and have spent most of the day sleeping and resting. I'll probably gonna do it tomorrow. I feel like a lot of my future is depending on how well I manage this visit to the makerspace. I'm exited and anxious at the same time. But I feel safe knowing I'll have some nice company going there

Usually only going with one person would have made me anxious because of my social anxiety, my SA is very specific like that, there's certain things I struggle with a lot in social situations, being with just one person at a time is one such thing. A group of people I usually can handle fine because I'm less the centre of attention in a group. And being in the company of a group of Aspies is the best.

But still I worry about how I'll manage going to a public place like that over a long period of time. I've tried that many times before and it usually don't end good. I might not be able to have Aspie company whenever I would like to go to the makerspace. So somehow I'll have to figure something out. Maybe it will work if I try to be very open about my SA and AS diagnosis, I haven't been able to be open with "normal people" like that before.

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10 Oct 2017, 4:10 pm

I'm trying to install a trial programme on my laptop, but I keep getting a 740 error message that says that it needs to be elevated, whatever that means. Is anyone here tech savvy?

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10 Oct 2017, 4:18 pm

Google suggests running a registery cleaner.
Google "740 error" for more info.

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10 Oct 2017, 4:21 pm

Oh, I get it now. I have Windows 10, I think. No wonder that programme didn't work.

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