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10 Oct 2017, 5:13 pm

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So here is a question:

Do you think not loving yourself has an impact on ones ability to care for and feel love for others?

I feel very deep love for others.
OTOH I can't work out why anyone would love me since I can't love myself, or even see anything good about myself, and that can lead to self-sabotaging behaviours within the relationship.


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10 Oct 2017, 5:29 pm

Sometimes the more emotional investment I have in someone, the cooler I can be towards them.
Call it an emotional safety barrier.
It makes no sense.
You'd think the more you love someone, the more you would want to be with them, but that's not always the case.
I feel if I lost someone, the pain could kill me, it's that intense.
So I need to keep some distance for my own protection, otherwise I'd self-destruct.


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10 Oct 2017, 5:30 pm

I'm a victim of my own passions.
And they say we have no feelings.


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10 Oct 2017, 5:56 pm

Raleigh wrote:
Sometimes the more emotional investment I have in someone, the cooler I can be towards them.
Call it an emotional safety barrier.
It makes no sense.
You'd think the more you love someone, the more you would want to be with them, but that's not always the case.
I feel if I lost someone, the pain could kill me, it's that intense.
So I need to keep some distance for my own protection, otherwise I'd self-destruct.


I actually feel the same way, along with feeling other people's emotions.

Raleigh wrote:
I feel very deep love for others.
OTOH I can't work out why anyone would love me since I can't love myself, or even see anything good about myself, and that can lead to self-sabotaging behaviours within the relationship.


Me, too, me, too. I wonder the same thing.


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10 Oct 2017, 5:58 pm

Raleigh wrote:
I feel very deep love for others.
OTOH I can't work out why anyone would love me since I can't love myself, or even see anything good about myself, and that can lead to self-sabotaging behaviours within the relationship.


Sometimes I want him to hate me, and to tell me, because that would be easier.
Because that makes more sense than being loved.
And because my brain says he will in time, so just get it over with.

No loathing like self loathing.



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10 Oct 2017, 6:02 pm

^ exactly!

Lovely to see you, Rach.
I could say please don't hate yourself, but that would make me a hypocrite, wouldn't it?


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10 Oct 2017, 6:02 pm

We all need kitty hugs. :heart: :cat:

I wish I could hug Boo.


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10 Oct 2017, 6:03 pm

^ why can't you hug boo?


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10 Oct 2017, 6:03 pm

^^ We could give ourselves a break and hate each other, mix it up a bit?

Excellent to see you, too :mrgreen: .



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10 Oct 2017, 6:04 pm

Boo doesn't like being picked up, and if I put my arms near her, she tries to love bite me.

^Let's not. :roll:


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10 Oct 2017, 6:05 pm

^^ I've always though you were a b***h.

better?


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10 Oct 2017, 6:09 pm

Mum's throwing up. I think the medication might be upsetting her stomach.


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10 Oct 2017, 6:10 pm

^Throwing up with a broken rib must be excruciating.


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10 Oct 2017, 6:11 pm

Throwing up must be extremely painful when your rib is broken. Your poor mum.



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10 Oct 2017, 6:12 pm

Ian's trying to help. Mum's asking for umeboshi. I didn't know that helped with upset tummies.


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10 Oct 2017, 6:15 pm

^ apparently.
they would make me want to puke.


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