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Sorry for the very belated hello, Mick. My family and I were just having a meeting. We're maybe deciding not to adopt my niece and nephew, because we don't have the energy and time to deal with their problems. Their mom is giving us a load of crap to sift through, telling the kids that they're comming back to her, they won't have to go to school, have a bed time, etc. It's all taking a toll on us. I may put on a big smile and be their best friend, but the truth is, I can't handle it. I think they're the reason my sensory overload gets worse each day. I don't have the energy to run around with them, teach them soccer or football. I've neglected my personal thoughts and devoted my time to them. While it has some positive affects, I just feel myself withering away. They're both diagnosed with ADD, and we're not even sure if my niece can learn at the same pace as her peers. She has to have her homework explained to her in extreme detail, and the slightest mistake in explaining it to her makes her scratch her head. Her brother has behavioral issues, and is constantly pushing all of our authority. My parents are spending the majority of their paychecks on daycare, because the kids can't be left alone for more than two minutes, or my nephew might do something to his sister. They don't understand the basic rules of society (and I thought I was socially awkward), like being clean and taking baths. I cannot count on both hands how many times I've found poop in the bath tub, or finding pull-ups in the compost bin. I'm tired of tripping over toys, the constant immaturity, the whining, and most of all, how this all even happened to them. Don't get me wrong, I love them to death, and I would automatically stop a bullet for them. I just can't handle it anymore. There are many problems with those kids that we cannot fix, especially with me in the family. My family is also on the older side. My step-dad is just a couple years younger than Taupey, and my mom is the same age as you, Mick. I'm in high school, and my sister will be joining me next year. All that money spent on daycare each month could easily go into family trips out of the country. We can't even leave the state of Oregon right now, because they're on the Oregon health plan. If they get involved in a car crash in Vancouver, our medical expenses in making sure they're alive will screw our family finances. We simply cannot handle it.

Sorry for the rant, but I had to get that off my chest.

I'm glad that you were able to get that off your chest. I'm sorry to hear about all that. I hope that you can find them a good home with people who have experience dealing with the issues that they have. I hope that they can be as far away from their mother as possible. I also hope that the mother doesn't abuse them if she gets them back.

Last edited by CockneyRebel on 21 Oct 2011, 12:03 am, edited 1 time in total.

Makayla said her mom is 36.

Thank you for the support. None of us know what to do right now. We're just keeping a routine and trying to make their lives the best we can manage.



Yeah, but their mom is actually 32, so she's not much younger than my mom.

Sorry about the mix up. Literacy isn't my strongest area.

It's alright. As you all can see, there is much more stuff out there that really grinds my gears.

I need to sleep.

(Train whistle blows. The Ghost Express appears, approaches.)

(I step off the train) "Hello, everybody! (Waves)

My dogs spend the night at a dogsitter's. I missed them terribly

But I picked them back up this morning!

They're dirty from playing with the other dogs. I'll have to give them baths this evening.

"Baths" is a weird word. The "th" sound comes out kind of like a Z

Having reviewed season one of The Walking Dead in its entirety, I have come to the conclusion that I have the perfect vehicle for surviving the Zombie Apocalypse.

Hello

I think my cat must have had a nightmare she just woke up hissing.

Hi, Identity! Hello, Grisha!

Good Morning Kyle and Myth and Everyone.

The "th" in bath does sound like a Z. I've never thought about that before. How weird.

Sorry to hear how stressed you are Makayla. Sometimes the state will cover childcare too but I really don't know anything about the state of Oregon and what you and your family's specific situation is with your niece and nephew as far as finances and being able to qualify for various programs to help with all or some of the expenses.

It's too bad that their birth mother is making the situation worse by telling them things like she is. It's not helping the children any that's for sure. She's doing it for her own selfish reasons, most likely out of jealousy. No doubt she wants the situation to fail because then she won't feel like such a failure herself.

Maybe your niece needs to be placed in a class which isn't so difficult for her so that you guys don't have to spend so much time teaching her what she should be learning in class at school.

Is your nephew getting any type of counseling for his behavior? I would think that counseling for both children wouldn't be a bad idea considering what they have been through.

Situations like this always take time for everyone to adjust to and it's certainly never easy as one might think in the beginning. You obviously aren't getting the time you need for yourself. Maybe your parents should do more to help the children so that you don't have too or maybe they can get assistance for someone to come into your home and help with the children some in the evening.

Anyway, I hope it all works out for the best for everyone involved.

Hi, Taupey! (Waves)

That reminds me of something my NT daughter said back when she was learning to spell phonetically.

She was being stubborn about something, so I said "What part of no don't you understand?"

She said: "I don't understand why it sounds like there is a 'w' on the end when there isn't one"

Good Morning Grisha and Identity.

Your poor kitty.