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I always get embarrassed whenever someone enjoys my books.

It could be from the fact that I often [subconsciously] feel that I don't deserve praise or attention.

I'm always my own worst critic.

Hug for you, Miss Kuraudo.

I must get some sleep now.
Night night.

Mum's crying. They had another row.

Oh, and Boo threw up twice.

Things have calmed down again.

They had another row, this time over the cinnamon buns.

It was over something really, really trivial.

I, and mum, thought things would be different this time.

In my secret opinion, my step-father is unconsciously treating my mum like his previous wife, and his insecurities are coming out like that.

I feel like running away when that happens, but there's literally no where to go.

This usually happens when we are going to have company, or during the holidays.

Hrgh. It's times like these that I'm not sure about my romantic prospects.

University residence proved that I can't live on my own--I just fall apart. [Well, and I nearly tipped off the despair event horizon, but that was from huge pressure, wanting to please my mum, forcing myself to the absolute limits, staying up late because I didn't want the morning to come, being utterly bored in and despising the classes I had, and many, many other things, but that's all behind me now. I'm free, I'm here now, and that's all that matters. I just have to believe that.]

If I wasn't an only child, perhaps things wouldn't fall to me so often. Ah, well. It is what it is.

Boo slept through the whole thing. She's still asleep now.

sorry you're witnessing this, kura. have they considered marriage counseling? it really helped my husband and me.

It's more that they're holding onto old hurts and patterns that flare up unexpectedly, and because my step-father is very good at talking--so much so that he often interrupts my mum and that makes her mad. He also makes assumptions a lot, which also frustrates her.

I get to have the first cinnamon bun! *bounces around like a catnipped cat*

MC works well when both partners are in agreement that change is needed - and both are willing to see that they might need to do some changing to bring that about.

Individual counseling works best when one partner has seen a need for change and the other hasn't yet. It's always possible for both partners to do IC eventually, then move to shared counseling once they're on the same page.

I'm sorry this is happening, Kura. Wish I had good answers for you. (It sounds a bit as though your stepfather has some social anxiety issues and avoids them by creating a fuss. That is bewildering and exhausting when you haven't figured it out, and becomes annoying and tiresome once you do. So IC might help your mom.)

Hugs, sweetie. (I am old, and grew up in a part of the country where people used to say this in kindness. If it offends, let me know, and I won't say it again.)

On a side topic it appears there is a Kuraudo Reading Club here? Yay, hi Temeraire and a thousand times yes to the incredible imagery

And another hug for that!

(Edit in: cinnamon buns are even better than hugs )