RainSong wrote:
I confess that I in about an hour I'm going to make a phone call. Honestly, I don't think it will connect; if it does, I'll have no idea what to say.
I confess that I hate phones. HATE them. I mean, to the point where I'm practically infamous over this.
When dealing with people, and because I lack the intuitive sense of the "hidden curriculum", I spend an inordinate amount of mental power visually observing whomever I'm talking with, and trying to gauge their reactions and responses on all of those non-literal things that humans use to communicate; tone, body language, expression, which direction someone's eyes are looking, what they're doing with their hands, etc., etc., etc. I've come to rely on being able to see someone in order to communicate with them; for each observed gesture, I try to extrapolate all possible meaning, and rank them according to probability of being correct; the better I know someone, the better I am at doing this. If I don't know somewhat at all, I use a generalized human construct for the same purposes, but it doesn't work consistently well. In any case, phones freak me out because I have no visual cues from which to analyze the posture and intent of whomever I'm talking to. And, because the sound quality on many phones is absurdly bad, I really lack even tone of voice. As a result, speaking on phones is very stressful for me; I often get confused over how I should react. Yuck, yuck, yuck.
I hope your phone call goes well, RainSong.
[And Graelwyn, that is a very abridged and simplified explanation for a much more complex set of related underlying issues that I came up with while analyzing myself during my nervous breakdown. Just an example for you.

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Good fortune,
- Icarus the Phone-breaker
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