I self-diagnosed perhaps two years ago, and assumed I was "Aspie". I was already diagnosed with Complex Trauma Disorder but I knew I had ND traits prior to any trauma.
The process of my assessment was transformative, really. A few of my doctors didn't want to consider anything other than trauma as the root of my issues (or, they didn't know how to assess an adult), so I sought a private assessment by a Ph.D Psychologist with a specialty in women's autism assessments. I was assessed just this year, in the spring. I wrote and published 188 pages plus appendices in response to the questionnaire (which itself was eight pages). My testing took 20 hours. The testing was exhausting and I thought I'd have a meltdown mid-way, although on reflection it was quite interesting. I was assessed with Level 2 Moderate Autism as well as my CPTSD, plus 99th percentile for depression and anxiety. 
I'm glad I know so I can start to reframe my life. I was a little shocked and stressed at first because of all my low ("needs significant support") scores, and the fact no one helped me sooner, but now I'm learning to understand.
Do you wish there were more resources for women?
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I never give you my number, I only give you my situation.
Beatles