How does a bully not know they're being a bully?

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only if making them is one of yours

I feel so honored.

Last edited by Taupey on 30 Nov 2011, 6:08 pm, edited 2 times in total.

Ahh, are you talking to me again?

Oh you're talking about another forum you moderate?

The bully does know what they're doing. They deny that what they're doing is wrong.

I feel so honored.

I didn't have time to ask you before but now I do and so I will. Do you realize that you are bullying and harassing me and I'm not talking about this thread only, you've done this before? If you really are who you say you are, and those photos are really photos of you, one would think that a beautiful young lady like yourself would not feel threatened in the least by a middle aged older woman like myself. But for some apparent reason, you feel you need to be that way with me. It's obvous that you feel you have the right to harass and bully me and it's quite peculiar that someone like you would do that. Are you that insecure of a person that you feel you have to be nasty to people in order to feel better about yourself? If so, I'm shocked because it seems you have everything going for you in life. If that's not the reason, why are you doing it? What is your reason for doing it? What evil have I done to you to deserve being treated like this?

I come here on this support website because I am disabled widow who lives alone and it's hard for me to get out and socialize in the real world. I come here to offer support and to get support not to be bullied and harassed by you.

I was talking to Moog, not you and it's none of your business unless you are the same person. And if you think you have the right to make it your business, then you're only out to cause trouble because you don't. Moog said something about something he said earlier and I commented saying I thought that would be proper.

There is absolutely no reason on this earth why that should bother you to the point that you feel the need to make a snide little remark pointing out my typo. You act like you're just waiting for something to jump on me about and it's puzzling as to why you are acting like this. I don't want to hear any of that "I didn't realize" passive aggressive stuff either. I know and you know exactly what you are doing.

Someone said recently in another thread that the more popular you are here at Wrong Planet, the more you can get away with. If that's the way you feel, that just because you are popular here you have the right to treat whomever you want badly then that really is a shame especially on a support website such as this and you should really be ashamed of yourself.

Oh and I'm sure you will find all kinds of typos in my comments, I know I'm just as much a human being as everyone else is here and I have never said otherwise.

I never stopped talking to you. I am physically ill and my mother almost died two days ago and is still in cardiac intensive care in a hospital in Tucson, Arizona and I'm being harassed and bullied anywhere I go on the internet by this guy, you already know this. Arguing and fighting with anyone about anything will make my medical condition worse. I believe you and many other people already know that too because I told you before. Besides that, I'm an Aspie. I can only handle so much stress at one time. If you want to argue or fight or tell me how bad of a person I am in a PM, please feel free, but I will take my time answering you when I'm ready and not before then.

i think i've only pointed out a typo by you once, and only did it because i thought 'monderators' sounded funny and it made me laugh to say it. that's probably the motivation behind like 80% of my posts here tbh. the chief purpose of my post was expressing how i felt sorry for the moderators for not being able to talk as freely as other members. but i'm a person of few words and couldn't be bothered to say that. the main purpose of it was not to bully you or harrass you. it was a comment on the conversation that was going on.

i dunno who you think i am? i'm definitely not moog And i think pretty much anything said on a public forum is seen as a general conversation free for anyone to join in or comment on? if something was really between two people it would be in PMs?

again, i dunno what you mean by 'someone like you' and 'you have everything going for you'. seriously, who do you think i am

and i also don't think that i harass you, but maybe it seems that way because i don't have much of a life and am therefore on here a lot. half the members probably feel harassed by me:/

i think you can be a little paranoid sometimes, which i get because i've had crazy people bug me too and i know it makes you uber suspicious afterwards, and maybe that has made you take my remarks more to heart than they were intended

i'll stay away from you?

I'm sorry, I didn't know. Or maybe you told me, but I didn't grasp the seriousness of things. That does explain a lot of what's been going down recently.

No, I don't want to tell you you're bad, I was genuinely upset when I thought I'd upset you, I didn't intend to make light of your pain, just I saw the situation differently, and I made a bit of a lazy move, cos I've been a bit depressed and stressed out too.

Last thing I want is more arguments, I'm fairly sick of all the negativity and insensitivity I'm encountering around her recently.

I hope your mother pulls through and your illness gets better. Take care of yourself.

No don't tell her she is paranoid. someone here got banned for telling another member he is paranoid because it's considered a personal attack here.

idc

It's okay to suggest politely someone may be paranoid.

When it's part of an attack (or if we are thinking of the same thing) a campaign of abuse, it's not.

I didn't know that someone was banned for calling someone paranoid.

Good.



Making nebulous statements with negative connotations about individuals will tend to have that effect.



Also, good.



Perhaps it is good to move on, just like the father in Law Abiding Citizen? (Just kidding, I'm not going to do any of that.) As for PMs, no thanks. I will respond to them, but I prefer public conversations which are archived for eternity.

Once in a good while there will be this person who acts roughly, but in the custom of their own enviromental norms. They probably didn't know any better. On the other hand, most bullies know better, but do it anyway.

Technically, we're not supposed to discuss banned members on the site is all (I'm a naughty boy). The offer stands.