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I intellectually know there is no one way to grieve. Or a correct way, but sometimes I feel nothing and then later sadness or sense of loss.

In 5th grade I was at school when Our President Kennedy was killed. People were in shock, crying etc. I felt like laughing because I didn’t understand what was going on.

Life has funny twists. For the last 19 years I facilitated grief groups and was on the crisis team at work.
My responses at work were more of the norm. (Whatever that means)

Grief, or lack thereof with me is an extremely complex concept and I also seem to be on an entirely different wavelength than most people.

I do feel grief and sadness. I don't feel completelydead inside , but I don't seem to feel grief in the same intensity as others do. Or, I'll feel grief about something far after the fact but not necessarily at the time. I agree with you, when something is actually happening, there's a lot for me to process in which I can't just "turn it on". Both when the space shuttle blew up, which we watched happen in school and also 9/11 which happened while at work, some people where crying. I just had too many unanswered questions in my mind in those moments.

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Oh, and sorry, Graceskjp, you'd asked about favorite places to vacation. I've preferred to travel less and less the older I get and be a "home body" more and more. That's counter to what my family desires so I'm trying to get better about that. Earlier this year we took a trip (fairly long road trip) back to the Upper Peninsula of Michigan. The "U.P.". It's one of my favorite places. Lots of nature, on Lake Superior which has great deep energy, few people, quiet and beautiful. In years past I've been to Hawaii (Maui), Spain, Germany, Austria and Canada and I've liked all of those places.

Special interests: turtles, dogs, wolves, other animals, Pokemon

I consider anything longer than 20-30 minutes to be a long car ride.

I would pick flying anywhere abroad and anywhere on the other side of the country.

Last time I was on a plane was in 2003.


My Christmas rituals: watching some cartoons in the afternoon, eating delicious pork roast with my parents in the late afternoon, then open presents and maybe watch a movie/ DVD afterwards.
Not so much rituals as traditions.

I would have watched horror at Halloween if it was available on TV that day, which it isn't here. I watched scary YouTube vids instead. Some were quite good and actually made me shiver, to my joy.

I don't have a favorite place to vacation to. There are only two places I've gone to more than once.
Most vacations we have stayed home, which is great and quiet when so many others are gone!

I love stay cations though we are considering Washington DC & Scotland.

Anything over 30 minutes in a car is long.
My wife can be in one for hours.


Anyone use a nebulizer?

This week is the first time for me in over a year.

I tried using one with my asthma medicine many years ago, but I found it easier to just use the inhaler directly.

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I use a nebuliser when my asthma gets out of hand. Used to be every year I would be in the emergency room and sometimes admissions, but i did a breathing course and my asthma has been a whole heap better. Re the grief question - it comes and goes with me, inappropriately. Like with all my feelings a lot of the time I don't feel anything (hence my name I feel Nothing) but then I get an avalanche of the buggers.

I can feel the feels but I can't name, sort, reconcile, predict or resolve them.


How often do you get up to get something, and forget what it was? (Scale of 1 - 100)?

all.the.friggin.time That will be 100 for me.

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I loathe to get up at all anymore, because 100! Virtually, every single time.

Do you have a habit of carrying something in your hands everywhere you go?
I can't walk three steps without carrying a pencil or something, just so my hands feel busy
(This leads to the excessive misplacement of things).

No but my brother does, the jeweller one not the writer one. Always has something in his hand, from when he was little.

Do you put things in the same place all the time so as to be able to find them?

In theory, everything has a place ... but I carry things so often that it has to be rearranged daily.
I'm curious, is that jeweller brother on the spectrum? I've never heard of anyone else doing what I do.
I can't imagine taking two steps with empty hands. I wouldn't know what to do with my hands.

He could be, but no-one has ever thought of it. He didn't talk until he was 4, stays mainly non-verbal with us his family, is very focussed on his jewellery (only thing he has ever done) but other people say he chats away to them, so that is disconcerting. He doesn't seem to struggle with anything, just gets on with what he wants to do.

All our family our a bit out of the ordinary, so to us being strange is the norm. My sister, who is most definitely NT gets annoyed with all of us.

Does this thing run in families? (That can be my interview question so as to stay on topic LOL)

My family is so dysfunctional that I can't see the forest for the trees, either. Even my trauma psychologist is like, "WTF?" when I tell him all the personalities and dynamics in my lineage. I get so accustomed to our proclivities that I don't think about our oddities until I see 'normal' people IRL or on film. Then, it's so obvious it can't be denied.

Question: Who is the most NT person in your family (by relationship)? Mine would be one of my cousins. She's on point.

My sister

But I don't know extended relatives that well




What chaned your life in a good or bad way? What impact did it have?



(For example,
Rape, military, disease, disability, homeless, college , friends, )

Definitely my sister. I mustn't be negative about NTs but after all that bullying at school by teachers and kids I have a bit of a hardened attitude. She doesn't find anything super interesting, and although she is a fine artist, doesn't get focused on it to the exclusion of all else. She gets frustrated with my shutdowns, seems to think I should be 'available' all the time. I am almost mentally lining my family up in terms of where they are on the spectrum... Probably another thing I should not be doing... I just love sorting things in order

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Gosh just missed shortfatbaldman's question - what a good question!

So many things!

Bad:
Death of my sister and near death of self
Stuff I won't write about here
Drug and alcohol habit

Good:
Getting sober
Having extensive therapy
Becoming a Christian
Getting to know self
Understanding ASD and finding this website!