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I used to ride my bike through the fields and explore through the woods and public footpaths. My parents were both quite outdoorsy and used to take me on hikes all the time. I never considered this to be a feminine or masculine activity, it was just something to do in the countryside.

My mother encouraged me to do ballet but I was awful at it. Also, there is a bias in favour of short petite girls in ballet. Whereas, I grew lanky and broad-shouldered with wide feet quite quickly.

Generally, my parents weren't too concerned with me being clean and maintained unless I had a specific reason to be (such as a dance performance).

I never liked shopping back then, but I don't mind it now, so long as I get to stop for food. Usually I shop in the women's section but occasionally I shop in the men's.

When I was a kid, there was a boy who told me that if I were to be a tomboy then it was only right that 'like a boy', I shouldn't be allowed to cry. Looking back, I realise that he was projecting that unfair gender stereotype on me as a way of coping with that expectation.

It's a double-edged sword because yes, it's more socially acceptable for women to cry but we're also seen as more emotional and therefore not logical or capable of making good decisions.

I personally disagree with such a dichotomy because I don't think emotion and logic are necessarily at odds with one another.

The expectation is bad for men as well because it encourages emotional repression which can backfire. Crying is a normal, healthy human response and should not be gendered.

Question for women as this is not the Women's Forum: Is being a tomboy different if you're strictly lesbian vs. if you're hetero or genuinely bisexual?

It has been over twenty years since the Lord of the Rings films were released (2001, 2002, 2003).
I realized this because I had been watch a series on HBO called The Leftovers, made 2014-2017. Liv Tyler is in it and her character is so different from that of the elf Arwen. It took me a while to get use to it. That is what is on my mind right now because last night I had a dream that was The Leftovers related. Actually, I have had dreams related to the series for the last three nights. But that reminded me of the Liv Tyler thing, even though she was not in any of the dreams. The dreams are usually me working out stuff presented in the show and real life stuff happening in the U.S. relating to sociology.

I don't wanna put the heating on because I don't know if it's cold or if its me

Hmm. Well, I suppose the terminology and expectations are a bit different. On dating apps aimed at lesbian and bisexual women, sometimes you're given the option to put whether you're a butch or a femme and what you're looking for.

Can't believe I'm about to get out the butch-femme scale chart but here we are.



^ This scale isn't taken that seriously. I've seen it more in fandoms to categorise characters just for the fun of it.

When talking about straight women, the terms girly or tomboy are usually used. However, in Sapphic* culture, things get a little more specific. Although I think there's a bit of a generational divide as terms like lipstick lesbian or high femme seem less common now. However, I see hyper femme sometimes.

I've seen plenty of people use soft / casual femme or soft butch as self-descriptors though. The expectations that come with soft butch VS stone butch are a bit different. Likewise with soft femme vs high femme.

What is considered to be presenting as femme within the Sapphic* community might still come across as tomboyish by heteronormative standards. Especially if it's more on the casual side rather than the extremes.

*Sapphic means women who are attracted to women, this includes bisexual women.

Honestly though, none of this matters. I only go into this level of detail on dating apps or when I'm talking to others in the community about how I can come across as gay (particularly when flirting). Pride pins and coded questions are quite useful. That and hanging out in gay spaces. Specific fandoms also tend to attract LGBT audiences as well.

I'm excited for you.

Germany

I'm starting to learn how to speak in old English now. Well, not old old, but like 1800s speak.

There's people using AI, and there's me writing stories with pen and paper and using my brain.

Actually, AI does help me with the facts that I need to look up when writing my story, but that's only because I wouldn't know the facts otherwise.

Today has been one of my better days. I even had enough of an appetite to eat a sandwich for lunch.

I just listened to The White Cliffs of Dover by Vera Lynn and now I can't stop crying.

(I just finished typing this and pressed preview. It is too long. Just skip it.)

The idea that there are an infinite number of timelines and every time we make a decision, a new timeline is created.

So there are "lots" of people on the planet. I don't remember the approximate number, and I'm not going to look it up like I normally would. Let's imagine that it is not every decision, but only important life changing decisions like do I buy a house or rent a house? (note: my mind is already ahead of my typing, so I'm already getting bogged down in what I'm trying to say.) Back to the point, with every life altering decision, a version of our existence is duplicated and life goes on. I am trying to wrap my head around that. Does everyone get duplicated just to accommodate my living in a rented space or living in a space I bought? Not only that, but everyone is making these decisions. So the path is being replicated millions of times a day. Again, it is just a "lot." I'm not looking it up.

This started because I was laying in bed this morning and thought I needed to get up and go for a long walk. I think this every morning... and I'm off on a tangent. I really should go for this walk because it will have a positive affect on my body health. So there are two options, get up, shower, go for a walk which I always enjoy, or get up, maybe shower, and turn on the computer, turn on the television, watch the race, start up the game World of Warcraft (one of the many variations) ... I'm getting bogged down in details. So one path or the other. It does not matter. Both paths will be followed, and the idea is all of you, everybody and everything will be dragged along because I decided how would spend my day. That means all of the decisions, good and not so good, that you will make and have made will be dragged along because I decided to attempt to live maybe eighty years instead of shooting for "seventy is okay."

So if you are having a particularly hard life, I truly am very sorry that my existence keeps multiplying it. On the other hand, it might be improving it.

Point in case, long before An Inconvenient Truth (2006), there was talk about global warming. Some people believed it was true and started doing what they could do. Others chose to believe it was not true. It became a political issue instead of a eventual global catastrophe issue. In this instance, for the United States, more people made a decision and a presidents, senators and congressmen were elected. People chose. Eighteen year after An Inconvenient Truth, the world had broken that temperature breaking year mentioned in the film more than a few time. People and more important countries are trying to do what they can. Even in the United States people continue to do what they can. I believe more people than every. But people were fooled by the promising of a man trying to avoid prison and possibly colluding with a group of people that ignoring global warming was more convenient with their "truth." As we've all heard over and over, any other Truth is "fake news," a hoax. The point is all of the decisions those U.S. citizens made to elect politicians that chose not to act on saving this one planet has dragged the world along a path of future global miser and early death. Yes, Joni Ernst is correct. We all die. When I heard her say this, my thought was technically she is correct. We all die, but she is missing the minor compassionate point of if you see a person in the road, do you apply the brakes or do you just drive into them. She was implying if they are poor, we all die, so don't waste the brake pads. I know with every fiber of my being if the issue was about insurance for middle class white women, she would have fought for that. ... on a tangent. The point is, the idea is somewhere we are living in a world where the world does not look so grim, and I am thinking I want to live to be a hundred, because being alive is really amazing, and an hour and twenty minutes after I started this I would have already gone for my walk. I would have left the house.

I swear this was all impromptu. I didn't intend for it to become so political. It was intended to be more quantum.
What was the point?

The idea that there are an infinite number of timelines and every time we make a decision, a new timeline is created.
I use to think this was a neat idea. I no long do. It is interesting to think about. I'm just thinking about humans impact on the timeline. Animals, intelligence on other planets? Surely they must play a role.

Anyway, to all the Wrong Planet inhabitants, I'm sorry resident rump is such a stool. I look forward to when we can flush.

I made my table at the tail end of the day.

Not sure if this is true or not, but I read somewhere that if you (as a native English speaker) are good in only math but not English or only in English but not math, then you are around average. If you are good in both math and English then you have a higher IQ. And if you struggle in both math and English then you might have below average IQ or even learning difficulties. It's not a 100% accurate way to know one's IQ but it can provide an idea for a lot of people.

"English" is a short way of saying "writing; spelling, grammar and punctuation".

My Mid-life crisis when I had my last breakdown.

I have dyscalculia, so I'm awful at maths. However, I am quite good at English. I enjoy writing and drawing.

Personally, I don't like to view things on the IQ scale as I believe that it's a flawed way of measuring intelligence. I'd probably score quite low due to my learning difficulties. Yet I don't think I'm stupid. I can do some stupid things sometimes, but I don't think I'm a complete moron. Or maybe I am.

Dyslexia runs in my family and it can present differently in others. Dyscalculia is a related condition and I have been known to line skip when reading but I'm fairly good at spelling.

I have a bizarrely good auditory memory. One time I couldn't remember a password to a key code on a door, however I could remember the sounds of each button and the tune it made. So, I was able to copy that tune and gain access. I'm also good at identifying songs.

A relative of mine used to play the piano. She wasn't able to read sheet music as the notes would dance around the page. However, if she'd seen someone play the song before, then she was able to remember how they played it and copy it from memory. Personally I used to have the same issue (of the notes moving) and just gave up on piano at eight years old, so I commend her.

The brain is an interesting thing. I used to fantasise about being a genius but it's kind of nice to be average. Being a genius must get lonely.