What's on your mind right now?

Post Reply New Topic

Thanks this is very interesting!

But this isn't really what I had in mind.

My thoughts were more like, if you're lesbian that being considered a tomboy in primary school would be equivalent to having had a love for Broadway show tunes as a boy for a gay man.

Whereas in the hetero world, there are actually negatives associated with extreme "girlyness", like some men might prefer a woman who doesn't spend a lot of time on fashion and cosmetics, and if a woman had been considered a tomboy in her childhood but was straight, that would be seen as a plus. If you're looking for a good example in the media consider Starbuck in Battlestar Galactica (a recasting of a character who in the OG series was male) however that character was written as heterosexual and I think it was expected that someone like that would be a male fantasy for some people.

So does this perception ring true at all? I am basically just guessing.

^ I was considering starting a thread like this is women's discussion.

I canceled my table at the flea market and I'm going to visit my parents this weekend. I'm not letting three colours get between my mum and I.

I'm being the bigger person in the situation. There won't be a turkey dinner, but the Thanksgiving weekend is a time for family.

I wish my mum would be the bigger person for once.

Thank you.

Whenever my boyfriend trims his beard it's weird. He looks good and I like it, but it's different.

A need to go to the gym.

Yeah, pretty much. It's the expected. Personally for me I didn't relate to femininity growing up because in media it was always presented as something that you intentionally perform to appeal to boys / men. I did go through a phase where I would do up my hair and paint my nails pink and I tried to be more feminine in general to fit in with the girls but it was dismissed as insincere and fake.

I remember a girl in school said to me that I have the energy of a feminine man and I don't think she even meant it as an insult. Somehow I knew what she meant, I often related a lot more to gender non-conforming male characters than female characters growing up (although part of that is somewhat due to writers having a habit of being bad at writing female characters). Frankly it's surprising that none of my English teachers ever questioned why I near always wrote my stories as a male narrator. The amount of gay poetry I wrote, as a teenage girl, supposedly from a male perspective is kind of funny to think about. It never really clicked that perhaps spending my time writing poetry about how pretty women are might not be a fully heterosexual activity. At the time I just thought it meant I was a cool girl who was good at being empathetic towards men. The amount of lesbians I've met that can relate makes me think the equivalent of show tunes is unintentionally writing lesbian poetry. (Pretty fitting considering where the word lesbian comes from).



I've heard about this. I don't think 'extreme girlyness' is particularly looked down on in the gay community. Perhaps some look down on it. Although there are certainly plenty of lesbians who are into dressing up in cottagecore fashion.



Cottagecore referring to long flowing dresses, corsets and otherwise traditional clothing.

Sometimes really butch lesbians are viewed negatively by certain people in the community for supposedly 'giving the community a bad name / making us look bad to straight people' and the same sentiment is made about flamboyant gay men. However, I think this tends to be an unpopular opinion and it's not one I believe in.

I'd consider myself to be casually femme. I really like dark academia.

got no future

structural engineering

so many precious lil "people" have felony convictions and not authroized to work in the country, but they earn enough $$$ to pay for rent, cars, children. while i do not

wrestling/boxing/martial arts

42 over the hill, rapid decline physically mentally and emotionally. and was never that great to begin with

terrible @ communication and horrified of what bad things will happen as a result of the fact that i am bad @ communication and plenty of precious lil "people" much worse than me

no goals

no meaning of "life"

misunderstood

warren, kayla, rolando, lisi, spoiled upper middle class brat, dena

litterboxing

regret sabotaging entire career prospects

I made a Grade A idiot of myself during karaoke singing Made in England by Elton John this afternoon. I thought it was funny until I watched the official Vevo video on YouTube just now. I did it as a joke and now the joke's on me. I should have just followed my heart and done Lili Marlene instead.

I tried to be funny because I was sad that the Oktoberfest season is over.

If I didn't go to the clubhouse, I'd be watching TV all day.

I wonder what things were like in 1966.

I heard that in the womb, all human embryos start out female, but then the Y chromosome turns many of them into a male at some point. Which means humans can be a different gender before they are even born.

But don't tell the transphobic right wingnuts, they cannot stand science and intelligence anyway.

And for some reason they don't seem to think trans men (who were born female) exist.

The bad: I seem to have lost my appetite lately.

The good: At least I'll be dieting without actually dieting.

Fact: I'm still eating, but not as much as I normally do.