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07 Oct 2018, 7:19 am

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Well, I'm easily traumatised by 'trivial' things, so it's common to both of us at least.


I'm glad you used the word 'trivial' as that's what my 'traumas' seems like to me sometimes , it's difficult to write about it without inadvertently invalidating someone elses's trauma - do you know what I mean


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07 Oct 2018, 7:21 am

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boo must be the avenging angel in all this then. :heart:


I went in that "WP members you miss" thread but i couldn't find what was that about. Someone accused you of bullying since your post followed theirs despite your naming someone else? that is absurd.

Has someone been pestering you other than the one who shall not be named?

if so please send a PM.

I am still processing the "she who shall not be named" incident. :oops:
Sorry to cause you trouble.
I'll take my drugs now, ma'am, and go straight to bed.


Serious question: Is this common on the spectrum. As in easily traumatized from events that you feel most people would brush off quite quickly. I feel like I've been traumatised by so many things in my life that seem insignificant ( compared to the horror stories I read here ) I have difficulty getting past things that happened decades ago.

Well, I'm easily traumatised by 'trivial' things, so it's common to both of us at least.
I don't know if you've ever brought it up with a therapist, but I did once and he kind of laughed it off so I never mentioned it again.
I can put things to the back of my mind but I seem to be easily triggered again, like I was by your perfectly innocuous comment today, then I start having flashbacks and feel kind of sick.
From something that has been dealt with and I should be able to forget.
Autism is great, isn't it?


I wish i could ban her one more time at least for all the trouble she has caused.

or dunno, arrange that she's infested by the swarm of flees or bed bugs :P

dunno if this could help and make you feel better but it's worth a shot:

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I would laugh at that joke but I'm bone idle


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07 Oct 2018, 7:24 am

^^ yes, I know what you mean.

I'd hate for a war veteran, for example, to read about the trauma I've suffered from someone calling me a bully.

But then the phenonema never gets acknowledged, or potentially treated.


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07 Oct 2018, 8:04 am

My GF just said you can inadvertently hurt peoples feelings but to bully you need to make a conscious effort and everyone has hurt someones feelings inadvertently


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07 Oct 2018, 8:09 am

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^^ yes, I know what you mean.

I'd hate for a war veteran, for example, to read about the trauma I've suffered from someone calling me a bully.

But then the phenonema never gets acknowledged, or potentially treated.


I'm glad you said that , makes me feel a little better about things. Nobody else has chimed in yet so maybe it's only a phenomena that c***s have.

Did you read the article that ASPartOfMe posted in this thread viewtopic.php?t=368699

Edit: Duh! you posted in that thread :roll: ignore my link


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07 Oct 2018, 8:59 am

^I was thinking it over. I am most traumatised when things go wrong due to the fact that it's a surprise. This leads

me to analyse it all over and over looking for clues so as not to repeat the same mistakes. Other people seem to

have picked up clues (it's all voodoo to me) and are more prepared. I never have any idea until things go wrong and

it knocks my confidence more than the thing going wrong itself does. If you can't tell whether something is a bomb

until it blows up in your face you can't help feeling reluctant to go near anything. I have no idea if that's remotely

what you meant, sorry.



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07 Oct 2018, 12:21 pm

^ I relate except I know my life is bomb right now. I didn't see the bomb though until it was too late.

Also all this bullying stuff made me paranoid lol but unless I had a sex change, it sounds fine. Sorry for those who felt bullied by anyone, its not fun.



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07 Oct 2018, 1:56 pm

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^I was thinking it over. I am most traumatised when things go wrong due to the fact that it's a surprise. This leads

me to analyse it all over and over looking for clues so as not to repeat the same mistakes. Other people seem to

have picked up clues (it's all voodoo to me) and are more prepared. I never have any idea until things go wrong and

it knocks my confidence more than the thing going wrong itself does. If you can't tell whether something is a bomb

until it blows up in your face you can't help feeling reluctant to go near anything. I have no idea if that's remotely

what you meant, sorry.

I can relate.
With the bullying thing, I'm still trying to work out what happened and if I was in some way responsible for it, even though I was totally unaware of it at the time, and logic tells me I couldn't have been responsible.
Being unaware meant it really knocked me for a six when I found out, and if I could be unaware of that, what else am I unaware of?
But how can you know what you don't know?
Only by becoming paranoid of everyone and everything, and it's very difficult to live like that.


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07 Oct 2018, 3:08 pm

^ Becoming paranoid is one way of reacting to the realisation.

Acceptance is probably an easier way to continue but the experience needs to be properly processed first.

When we are able to absorb new learning of the world we live in into our own personal concept of the world and how it is rather than should be, then we seem to live a more authentic life. Is this better than being oblivious - sometimes I like oblivious.

I still have nightmares and flashbacks from my trivia, some dating back over 40 years. If I knew the secret remedy I would let you in on it.



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07 Oct 2018, 3:32 pm

Hello, all.

I wrote four stories today, bringing my current total to 6 done and 11 more to go.


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07 Oct 2018, 3:37 pm

I'm getting myself out of my system before we go and see some relatives. I can take the Union Mask off when I get back to my place tonight.


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07 Oct 2018, 3:40 pm

Hello Mr Rebel and Miss Kura.

Kura, guess what started here in the UK on BBC tonight?

I have recorded it.



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07 Oct 2018, 3:43 pm

:D I have the episode on the BBC website on another tab, and I want to watch it, but I'll wait for my mum.

We're going to have goat cheese walnut rice loaf for thanksgiving, and pumpkin pie, of course.


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07 Oct 2018, 3:49 pm

Oh lovely! To all of that.

I am glad you don't have to wait for it.

Let me know when you have seen it - I will watch it later with a posh pie I got at a discounted price from a posh supermarket.



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07 Oct 2018, 3:55 pm

:D
We'll probably watch it tonight after supper.


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07 Oct 2018, 4:07 pm

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:D
We'll probably watch it tonight after supper.


Happy Thanksgiving btw.

That rice loaf looks nice and I think I will try something like this.

I have some things I need to use up tomorrow.



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