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My main ambitions are to provide for my family and be the best husband and father I can be . That's it at this point in my life. Such a narrow focus for me is something that's necessary. I know other men who have a huge variety of ambitions in addition to husband and father. I know a man, for example, that is a: husband, father, soccer coach, high level corporate job, hunter, serve on committees, has a Master's degree, has many friends, goes "out with the guys", is active at his church and serves on the board there. I simply could not do all of those things like he does. Thankfully I don't feel bad about it nor do I feel jealous of him.

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Sadly I get depressed a lot and i think I have no ambitions, but i remembered I've always wanted the world to be kinder to nature and love it and each other.
I wish I could do something to make that more possible.

I almost forgot the question.

Do you like hugs?

Depends on who is hugging

No ambition left. Lazy and apathetic.

Avoid social situations

Favorite meal? Nothing particular - trying not to think about it. Provoke, trigger gorging.

No $$ to buy favorite meal. No skills to cook. Fat.





What impulses are you resisting?

The impulse to go ahead and purchase a smartphone replacement


How do you try to be efficient within your dwelling?

It is arguably part of an addictive eating pattern but trying to eat foods which I see in low amount and/or taking up fridge space with their packaging might count.

Does the impact your parents had on your mental health make more sense if you consider the impact their parents/ your grandparents had on their mental health?.

YES -- I was just thinking about this yesterday (for multiple hours, because I'm obsessive that way). I want to know more about how my mother's parents treated her, in particular. I know her father was strict but I think there's more to it.

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you ask for a general statement? idk about that, i have some details
the father of father was quite old when he married, ww1 vet, tuberculosed and having bad health problems on and off, strong silent tyrannic & strict, i suppose, from the stories, father was traumatised some way, he remembered his mother as bedridden oftentimes,
faith was father had to take over the business, was taken out of school to prepare for that, but totally not the person to deal with the people-side of things, that gave enormous stress in the household always, also the work was at home, the work was home, and great spoiler and excuse for spoiling everything

the father of mother, big socialist and union man, office-clerc and insurance-dealer (mind the link)
- all mentionned were children from large poor families who had to go work as early as possible to help the household
the other grandmother was only child, her mother was institutionalised a while in early adulthood, apparently gm didn't do all that much housework and hated cooking, never knitted or needleworked

both g-parent couples weren't too happy with the choice, that might have helped in creating polarisation too,
the them vs us
the first bad memory, overhearing parents' row around age of 3, hearing f say, you can go (back) to your parents and take 'your' children with you, ITS that time when your world fell apart by betrayal, if that makes sense -
the untrustworthy parents, you deny it (are these my parents or was there a mistake), you forget about it but they keep throwing it in your face
where's this going? my mother didn't connect with me at birth, that's likely postnatal depression, but if we take the road of everything is my fault, then so it is
(even nature shows the mother preference is to the male, in duress the ressourses prioritise to male offspring, even in the womb(generally) they get more nutrition so its not a problem of caracter or intent) i think she stayed jealous covertly thats why i got thrown away later on, but how that stands in relation to her parents or mother?

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As we can see from the book you wrote this is too complex of a question to answer for certain. I've only lived my life, not my parents or grandparents. While they're definitely a big part of it, I'm messed up for more reasons than just my parents.

Do you have a good relationship with your family?

Yes thankfully.

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I don't know.
I believe I have a few decent relationships with a few members.
One or two I don't, even though i tried.
That's a hard question for me.

Do you get judged for having sensitivities (such as sound)?

I get judged for not wanting to socialize all the time.

Do you believe YouTube has great old shows on it---better than any "nostalgic" channel on TV?

You Tube has a lot of interesting things related to topics I like, much better than regular television. I have watched episodes of old shows. They were really good.

What is your favorite nostalgic show?

I have a good relationship with three members of my family. The rest are strained because people think I'm too "cold" (that's how they see my mutism) and too introverted (that's how they see my autism). They don't know my true diagnoses.

My favourite nostalgic show is The Flintstones. I loved Fred. He reminds me of my father. I also liked The Brady Bunch and The Honeymooners (which inspired The Flintstones).

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As a kid I liked Happy Days in the years before it got lame and the beginning years of Laverne and Shirley. For cartoons I liked Flintstones, Jetsons, Speed Racer, The Adventures of Jonny Quest.

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not sure, but i have been watching a lot of them for a while.
just discovered a show called the streets of san francisco.

what period of time would you like to time travel back to

The Streets of San Francisco---with Karl Malden! Great show!

I wouldn't want to travel to a place where there's no air-conditioning LOL. I would like to go back to my 20s and start over again, though. The 1980s.