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12 Nov 2018, 8:05 pm
Kiprobalhato wrote:
i feel like the only way i can have social success is to wait until someone else approaches me, because my approaching skills suck and they never really go anywhere.
for example, that cashier with whom nothing has happened for 4 months.
people tell me that i should "work on myself" before i start to seek out a partner because i always "borrow" other people's happiness instead of making my own, which is true.
for example, that cashier with whom nothing has happened for 4 months.
people tell me that i should "work on myself" before i start to seek out a partner because i always "borrow" other people's happiness instead of making my own, which is true.
Borrow their happiness?
“No mockery in this world ever sounds to me so hollow as that of being told to cultivate happiness. What does such advice mean? Happiness is not a potato, to be planted in mould, and tilled with manure".
Charlotte Brontë, Villette, 1853
I hope that just means that you should see other people feeling happy, and perhaps feel happy on your own using empathy?
I hope you're still +4 Trillion like you were before
We're all rooting for you, Kip. You're a handsome and very kind young man, and I feel terribly when you're so sad
12 Nov 2018, 8:05 pm
12 Nov 2018, 8:14 pm
IsabellaLinton wrote:
Kiprobalhato wrote:
i feel like the only way i can have social success is to wait until someone else approaches me, because my approaching skills suck and they never really go anywhere.
for example, that cashier with whom nothing has happened for 4 months.
people tell me that i should "work on myself" before i start to seek out a partner because i always "borrow" other people's happiness instead of making my own, which is true.
for example, that cashier with whom nothing has happened for 4 months.
people tell me that i should "work on myself" before i start to seek out a partner because i always "borrow" other people's happiness instead of making my own, which is true.
Borrow their happiness?
it means i'm only capable of feeling good when i'm around other people, and go back to feeling down when they're gone. since most people are much more socially receptive than i, they notice this and in their struggle to avoid being "used", conclude that it's the reason i tend to get so attached and they promptly dump me.
i'm not still 4 trillion, more like -4.
if i knew that other people are often as lonely as i am and they just want someone to approach then too, then it would be no problem. but i have no way of knowing it and fear rejection more than anything else so i don't try.
can you imagine how it would make someone feel if, after a long time of feeling too shy and chickening out, they finally decide to go for it, and they only get shot down confirming their fears?
no wonder so many people are lonely.
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