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Well, now you know and knowing is half the battle

Why would we judge you harshly?

You're always welcome here.

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Hello, all.

There was a row today around lunchtime, over trivial, mundane things and my step-father's habit of interrupting and not listening. Mum cried, but to say that is inaccurate. It was more like an outpouring of grief. and what did my step-father do? Turn into Spock, act all logical, and went out to the kitchen to put groceries away instead of comforting mum. He gave me an enthusiastic greeting, but I saw through it straight away, and knew that it was as much as a mask as his distant, logic persona, which I've noticed he puts up so as to not get hurt. I went to comfort mum, and she apologized again and again, saying that it's not right to live like that, not knowing when someone's going to let lose.
I just thought 'well, I'm used to it...'

I keep feeling bad for being whiny and complaining. I'm sorry.

One phrase I really dislike is 'Get over it.'

But...

Whenever I think about sad things, or traumatic things, from days gone by, I think that phrase, and then I feel weak for not 'getting over it.'

Sorry to hear that; I trust the situation has stabilized now and is calmer.

It's not nice to endure disharmony.

Maybe a lingering memory from a past life?

I think in a past life I was a young soldier executed by firing squad for desertion.

Don't feel bad, your finishing NaNo was the inspiration I needed to make me get back to my writing grindstone.

November was a washout for me but December is going well so far

Footnotes for one of Kura's research papers in school.

.A.P. , M.C. and M.C. ..the initials of the 'three saints', I knew in high school.

MC?


MC RIDE???

My little sister gave her childhood teddy bear to my son.. i’m holding it right now and OMG it feels so therapeutic . How is it possible that stuffed toys can do that? They’re just animal-shaped pillows basically. But they actually make u feel calm n soothed. So strange

Feelings are not a river with a bridge to get over, they run through u because they’re part of u. I hate that phrase too. But we’re here to listen which is more helpful


Get over it is just a phrase invented by a bully who ran over others’ rights and doesn’t care. A lawyer.

Your mom shdnt apologize fr bursting thats normal in my family too its part of life and the reason she did it aroynd u guys is bcuz family is a safe place to react authentically. My mom yelled cried and had breakdowns all the time often over minute trivialities-
I mean she still does but less as her life is not so bad as before
it was all the stress she was generally keeping in

Do u have a link to ur novel (if u blogged it as I have seen some ppl do)?

maybe it's the association.

my ex, when we were together, knit me a scarf. a big, thick fuzzy purple scarf. when i was having periods of severe anxiety or panic, i'd wrap myself in it and everything would be better.

we've since broken up so it no longer has that property. i still have it. but it stays in my car.

So many writers here. I bet if they did a study they wd find a substantial proportion of writers n artists wd b on the spectrum.

I went to therapy today after a long break from it. It is so necessary to clear ur mind. Srsly.

It’s useful to REDIRECT thoughts for ASD ppl bcuz the therapist listens n unravels or guides u to a better way of thinking

(my severe ASD kid needs REDIRECTION of harmful habits n reactions
to helpful n beneficial or innocuous things

so same with me

where im not disabled but i still need to be redirected away from habitual but unhelpful or deteriorating way of thinking

as it doesnt come automatically to me to know how to deal as it does with other ppl )

Not only tht the therapist can also reassure n confirm fr u some things. So u dont doubt ur good judgement on some things

Then over time u can distinguish ur beneficial thinking
from the false and harmful way of thinking instead of thinking they are the same thing. n u learn each time so u can absorb the thought process n self regulation
tht comes naturally to other ppl

She told me today tht just bcuz someone is very rich n educated, that doesnt make them good or moral or ethical ppl - even if the world gives them influence tht doesnt mean they are someone to listen to
Bcuz my ex lawyer had told me ‘you’ve accomplished nothing in five years u will b in the same place!’ Etc on the 2nd last phone call (trying to get me to go court)

So i told her i have nightmares of tht guy many times a week—even this morning early morning i had one
And whenever i try to study or go out to run errands that thing he said keeps coming in my mind

So she said just bcuz u respect somebody doesnt mean they deserve ur respect. Etc