OkaySometimes wrote:
Just running across this thread, and figured I probably should post in it. I'm new here, and haven't interacted much, so I'm neither popular nor unpopular at the moment. But every other forum I've ever been on, some for years, I feel like I'm on "Ignore" for most people and I can't understand why. I'll answer a question on page 2 or 3, no one will interact in any way, then on like page 7 someone else (sometimes a person with less time or less post count or whatever) will say the same thing, often in the same words, and everyone "like"s the post and quotes it with agreement etc. There was a recent thread (on another unrelated forum) where I answered a person's question, he did what I had said, then on the next "page" of the thread (with only about a 24-hour difference) he posts something like "Oh, I did that thing from page 1. Can't remember who posted it, but it worked. Thanks, whoever posted that." Umm... Am I overreacting when I feel snubbed there? I mean, it's been less than 24 hours, and even if you can't remember, you're on page 2 of the thread, you don't have to dig through 50 pages of crap to try and find who posted the advice that just helped you. Right? Anyway...
I just don't understand it, and thought maybe someone would be able to help here. So far, WP has been good, but I do honestly find myself hitting "Cancel" rather than "Submit" most of the time. Some part of me is afraid the same thing will play out here. So I suppose I'm posting in this thread in the hopes of figuring out "how to be" on a forum, because I don't seem to know, and I don't want this forum to go that way. Just once, I'd like to have a group of people I can be comfortable with, and it seems like it may be more likely here, but I'm still afraid of falling into the same pits. Anyway, thanks for reading if you did.
Hi
I have no idea myself, but I don't expect anyone to react or like or do anything with my posts. This system do not care of likes or not. Ofc I would like to get feedback on my thoughts, we all want that.
Look at this place as an open market place, a soap-box-speatch place, where all are hollering. If you walk around long enough, or go upon a box and start holler yourself, sooner or later you will find someone that connects. Pressing cancel do not help at all. Being early do help, picking the threads you respond to also, asking people to be friends without getting hurt from a no, then go on is crucial. Not being afraid to get negative respons is a skill worth working for. I work to acquire that skill myself, I'm s**t scared to get a 'no'.
More power to you