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Thanks! I forgot how I came up with it, I think I was listening to that song and thought "Heh, my feet don't have any rhythm either." And then another -ie sound-ending word popped in my head. I really like that song, which is kind of embarrassing.

hee hee, that could be my siggy. my sister, a dancer, frequently walks in on me dancing and shakes her head muttering "no, just stop."

hey, that's cool! me too. it doesnt make me feel unwanted, though...although it can in real life, at times.

Awww...(((Hugs AA)))

I don't think you're annoying at all, in fact you were one of the coolest people here.

I like it too. I was singing it last night and this morning after reading your sig lol. I frequently change the words to songs like that too ... usually to something having to do with my dog. I love making songs about my dog his name is Doodle so it's pretty much guaranteed to make everything more entertaining to swap words with his name.

Thanks MissConstrue!

The reasons I feel like this go as follows:

-I am a Catholic

-My username, which I like

-I am a loner here on WrongPlanet and want to make friends

-Many people here don't seem to like me AT ALL

-The list goes on...

Well, I haven't noticed anyone seeming to dislike you AnonymousAnonymous. But I'm not the world's most observant person so let me go on record as saying that I do not dislike you at all

I guess its a natural feeling to bring on as an aspie, to feel unwanted. But by logic this site would be the last place for an aspie to be unwanted.....or?
Btw, I just read this thread all pages in one row, and noticed that the OP left the stage some pages ago

Maybe "unwanted" is a wrong term here, especially coming from someone who got only 30 posts so far. I can only relate to myself. I can feel UNCERTAIN sometimes. Like when I post something that is important to me and nobody notice or give any comment on it, that feels difficult but I dont feel unwanted, just sad beeing UNNOTICED

xalepax wrote:

I know how that feels. I have to actively remind myself of the times I read someone's post and then not comment only because I didn't feel like I could contribute anything useful.

Imma go out on a limb here and suggest that if a person feels unwelcome in any situation or environment it is >75% their own doing.

How one "feels" is a choice, not a foregone conclusion.

You being Catholic has nothing to do if people like you or not, my username is a mess compared to yours, you are not a loner here, you can't compare people here to people in RL, this is a chat site, there is a minority here who make friends in RL, most of them just chat here, and I'm in no way annoyed at you, I don't understand why I should be it.

Depends on the ATM balance

No but I do feel I am not liked but I don't really care because I have not seen people saying they don't like me and stuff except two of them here. I think I may have scared off one of my WP friends because he hasn't answered and he has read them and I might have done something wrong to this other person because he hasn't answered back but maybe he was just too busy to answer so I'll wait. I don't always answer PMs my self right after I read them.

I did just call my friend on the phone and left him a message. If he doesn't call back or PM me, then I'll assume I scared him off and I won't bother him anymore.

One thing I've noticed is that a lot of AS folks are perfectionists, and in line with that, many of us like to complain and be argumentative. A lot. And when you have a forum where there are a lot of AS folks, it becomes easy for a lot of disrespectful mudslinging to occur.

In contrast, there really isn't enough emotionally-supportive feedback that happens here, not enough "that is awesome and you are so cool" or compliments on specific things. I mean, it's just like in the real world out there, where people will complain if something wrong happens, but people don't say anything when everything is ok. I think there are a few people who do give positive supportive feedback, but they're most likely to do it with people who will reciprocate. Why? Because positive feedback is something that snowballs and feeds itself, just like negative feedback. The more that you give praise and say, "hey I actually like that, please keep doing it", the more favorably people will respond to you, and that in turn helps you to feel better... something that I think everybody on WP needs. There might be an "in-crowd" of sorts in WP, but I think it's at least partially due to this group of people having found that they are likely to give praise to one another. The in-crowd didn't come before the praise; the praise came first. So if you want to be more welcomed, start giving more positive feedback then. When I first started posting here, I didn't get ANY responses at all to what I had to say, until people got to know me better and responded favorably every time I would try to be supportive and positive. People want support and optimism. If we wanted to be cut down and made to feel like sh*t, seriously we don't need WP for that. All we'd need to do is turn off the computers and go outside.

There are very very few people on WP whom I dislike, and they are pretty much the low-post-count people who sign up on WP and then immediately go in PPR to flame away, call people names, saying stuff like, "if you disagree with me, you're stupid". Then they wonder why they aren't liked, and point fingers at an in-crowd as though there were some kind of conspiracy. It's no surprise if you think about it! Everybody else I either like or have no strong opinion about, and that's fine. That just means I'll do my best to give constructive feedback as well as positive reinforcement to you if you look like you need it, or if you say or do something particularly poignant. I try my best to be fair and understanding, but I'm also human so please forgive my transgressions.

I don't have any clue if I'm in an "in-crowd" or if I'm particularly well-liked. Regardless of the answer, I'll continue to try to be genuinely positive and supportive. There just aren't enough people who are positive and supportive in this world, and we need more of them. I can't stress that enough. Sure I don't always agree with what people say here, but that doesn't mean that I cannot learn and change my mind. We can only learn from people who aren't like us, who think differently. So learn to discuss more respectfully and supportively, and you may learn something.

I'm really desperate for people to post on my threads, especially this one:

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt99081.html

I sort of feel the same way about this site, it is very cliquey and unfriendly, I was having some trouble a few weeks back about cutting and one jerk
actually made me feels worse. WP seems to be filled with arm chair critics with nothing to say of any worth or value and are best to be ignored.
Let the fireworks begin