I would like to complain that my mother is being a control freak, and it's really bothering me.
Now, I understand why she's doing it: the trip to Georgia to visit my grandparents (who she truly does not want to see) starts on Wednesday; the trip to Pawley's Island is a few (three?) days after that; and she can't control my father like she wants to (they have an odd "agreement", although I'm pretty sure he never agreed), so she tries to control her offspring instead. I get that. That doesn't, however, make it all right.
I am perfectly capable of answering questions directed specifically at me, especially when they concern my personal life. I am also perfectly capable of going to bed by myself.
Furthermore, I don't care if she doesn't want to see them, we still should visit my grandparents. There's a reason my father wants to see them - they're his parents! Yeah, the house is an absolute mess and Grandma is slowly going senile. Yeah, they fight all the time. Yeah, they won't let us do anything, and as a result, we sit on the couch doing nothing for hours. And yeah, two out of four of their children live within a few hours, whereas we live ten hours away, but you can't blame them for not wanting to help 24/7, especially when all they do is get yelled at. She doesn't even want to go. We visited for years when they were perfectly healthy, and now that they're not, she wants to leave. My brother is the same way. That's just not fair to them.
She also doesn't want us to go because she feels my uncles are a negative influence on us. They did (and do) stupid things, broke bones, broke rules, and generally caused mischief. To be fair, they still are a bit rowdy and fun loving - they taught my brother when he was three years old that his name was, in fact, Dude, and he went around correcting everyone who called him by his proper name. So ok, they're not angels.
And she's very obvious in her opinion that one of them is a loser. At the age of 42 (maybe? I think it's around there), he has yet to get married (his most serious relationship was with a girl who was over 20 years younger than him - not that there's anything wrong with that (you would swear he was only in his 30s), but my mother did not look kindly on it), he doesn't hold down a steady job, he couldn't get his dream job, and he likes to gamble. But that stuff doesn't matter. He's actually really cool; he's my favorite out of the three. Ha, he's actually not so different from my aunt (who is on my mother's side) in certain ways (some of the things she critcizes apply to both, but she'll only praise my aunt).
Even if she doesn't like my father that much, she could try to pretend to like his family.
So there: complaints...
_________________
"Nothing worth having is easy."
Three years!