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22 Feb 2016, 6:09 pm

mee too :thumleft:

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22 Feb 2016, 6:10 pm

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Why is it so hard for me to talk about my emotions/discuss emotional things (in person)? Suddenly my voice will break and I back-track to rational mode, or make a joke. What's wrong with me?

You're scared

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22 Feb 2016, 6:11 pm

it has been my experience that using clinical abstract language takes the scare out of it.

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22 Feb 2016, 6:15 pm

auntblabby wrote:

here is a thought experiment one can try- on the observation that the brain has a limited amount of resources to apply to any task or problem, to tamp down the emotions try to make your expression at least at first as abstract as you can make it- avoid words which in the past excited your emotions and instead use the most clinical terminology you can muster- this will do two things- 1] it will avoid words that have emotional connotations/denotations/associations, and 2] will tax your brain's resources so that you have just enough to get your thoughts out but the emotions are shunted aside due to not enough spare neurons after expressing your complex abstraction out loud or in print. just a thought.

That's often what I do, and I wonder if it's part of the problem. I become hyper-clinical/rational in my choice of words and detach. In my head I am capable of opening up, but when the moment comes (in real life) it doesn't work as planned. I wonder if it's going to hinder therapy or potential relationships.

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22 Feb 2016, 6:19 pm

ImAnAspie wrote:

AuroraBorealisGazer wrote:

Why is it so hard for me to talk about my emotions/discuss emotional things (in person)? Suddenly my voice will break and I back-track to rational mode, or make a joke. What's wrong with me?

You're scared

Yes, I am. I don't want to lose control, it's not pretty and opens up so many floodgates.

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22 Feb 2016, 6:21 pm

on another tack, what would happen if you imagined the person you were talking to was naked? or wearing a ridiculous outfit? that would IMHO depersonalize it at least a bit, making your cognitive load somewhat easier.

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22 Feb 2016, 6:55 pm

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22 Feb 2016, 7:01 pm

Sleeping only 3 to 4 hours a night does have it's advantages. Far more time for my Special Interests and time to read.

It can also be very boring for long periods of time!

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22 Feb 2016, 7:01 pm

wish I had your efficient batteries/system. I need twice that amount of shuteye.

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22 Feb 2016, 7:08 pm

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wish I had your efficient batteries/system. I need twice that amount of shuteye.

I've always been like this auntblabby. I think I told you, when I was a kid, Mum used to call me the wandering ghost because I'd be up all hours of the night/morning.

Well, hardly ever. I have some nights where I don't sleep at all.

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22 Feb 2016, 7:09 pm

you'll probably out live me and more healthily to boot. superior genes you must have.

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22 Feb 2016, 7:11 pm

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Hm, I don't know. If I was able to get my mind to go there, it could confuse my emotions further. I need to be able to feel very comfortable with someone in order to open up. So I think those things would just alter the nature of my discomfort. But thanks for the thoughts.

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22 Feb 2016, 7:14 pm

I guess I hope you find yourself in a situation where you have the time you need.

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22 Feb 2016, 7:18 pm

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you'll probably out live me and more healthily to boot. superior genes you must have.

I don't think so. Although it's just natural for me, I do wonder what toll it takes on my body.

Margaret Thatcher was the same and I believe Winston Churchill was the same.

I'm weird all round! Alien!

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22 Feb 2016, 7:22 pm

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auntblabby wrote:

you'll probably out live me and more healthily to boot. superior genes you must have.

IMHO they had superior genes despite unhealthy lifestyles, their genes protected them and let them get away with burning the candle at both ends.

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22 Feb 2016, 7:25 pm

auntblabby wrote:

ImAnAspie wrote:

auntblabby wrote:

you'll probably out live me and more healthily to boot. superior genes you must have.

IMHO they had superior genes despite unhealthy lifestyles, their genes protected them and let them get away with burning the candle at both ends.

I treat my body terribly but I'm still going. I've always hated fruit and vegetables and I still never eat them. I never drink water. I'm surprised I've mad it this far.

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