I have an odd mother, she is dyslexic (so am i) and ADD.
whenever she messes up because of these two things, we comfort her, even if it was kind of hurtful towards us, we are not allowed to get annoyed with her or we are "ganging up on her".
funny, as im the one who inherited most things. my sister has....nothing at all disorder wise, where as im am strongly dyslexic and am also autistic (though where on the spectrum is a mystery until they do a deeper test).
whenever i do something because of one of these (which i am prone to do a lot more then her, as autism is a lot more...interfering with social and everyday life as you probably all know) i get VERY told off by her for doing it, she has no empathy for it, she will get angry at you without forgivness or understanding till you fix what you've done, the rest of the family don't experience this as im the only one with these things (except my half brother, but we've never met him). take today for instants:
I was feeling very upset and down about being social inept and screwing so many basic conversations up, it was the verge of a cry meltdown, i tell my mother about this, what does she do? does she attempt to comfort me or help? no, she just makes it worse by telling me just how badly ive messed up recently (ill explain what i did in a minute). making me feel MUCH worse, luckily i isolated myself from social situations by going onto my computer to play games and such to calm down and not get upset. but way to go, my own mother decides its great to "rub salt into the wounds". no understanding, no empathy, just unforgiving attacks even though we arn't allowed to do it back when she messes up because of one of her disorders.
to explain what i did:
i explain that i have hypersensitive hearing (as loud noises like music or raised voices actually hurt my brain, not pleasant at all) my sister goes "HA! you don't have that, you can't hear me half the time i talk to you" and i bluntly reply "thats because im not interested and have my headphones on playing video games". i mean, WOW way to go me, really good job there, say something like that without thinking nice way to talk to your own sister. now she was annoyed and upset, but i didn't read this at all, so about 4 days go by till the incident above happens and my mother tells me that she is upset about this. she only told me because i said my ineptness was getting to me, you know, just to make me feel better.
now im contemplating and planning on how im going to apologize to my sister, what im going to say, when im going to slot that in to a conversation without my parents ganging up on me while i do it (they do that, they join in on saying how horrible you were when your not even apologizing to them but somebody else).
at least when uni comes around they will no longer have to see me as much so they will be happier i guess. but thanks mother, for making me feel much worse, i know that next time i need comfort ill just go bang my head off a brick wall instead.
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AQ score: 45
Your neurodiverse (Aspie) score: 174 of 200
Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 30 of 200
You are very likely neurodiverse (Aspie)
Officially diagnosed 30th june 2017