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03 Nov 2016, 9:23 am

^I usually don't say anything when I meet new people unless they say hello or something.


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03 Nov 2016, 11:13 am

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dcj123, I've always stuck to the rules even when there was clear violations, never did I question authority even when I had been wrongfully accused of something without any literal evidence whatosever.
As well, some but not all companies use those stupid online questionnaires which to me are nothing more than a version of Minnesota Multiphasic Personality Inventory which has been altered in a corporate fashion but, no less still relevant means to weed out the so-called "bad hires".


Well I really don't know what to say to that, it appears I didn't follow the rules and I was largely okay. Maybe there some other kind of discrimination there. Also the only things that burned me that I listed was 1 and 8. It does seem kind of unfair when you think about me basically being the worse employee ever. However the hire process is insane and I have never really done it successful. The job I held for two years was basically giving to me because of a case manager, my second job burnt quickly and there not an in person interview there so I hear your pain. Most clear violations at my job were from me but no one really cared. I got fired for number one on my list.

Also I would add to that list and say don't flip off other employees however, when I did that I was out and I actually don't regret that... at all...



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03 Nov 2016, 11:45 am

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AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA :cry: :cry: :cry:

Now I know why I don't have any friends IRL. I saw a girl with a Pokemon shirt, and I ran up to her, really happy, saying "I like your shirt!" Maybe a little too happy. She looked at me weird, and diddnt say anything, and continued on. My mom got mad at me, but eventually got over it, but now I'm steaming mad at myself for freaking out, I mean, I just couldnt controll myself! And to make it hurt even worse, mom pointed out a couple holding hands in the parking lot, and that made me upset. I know I shouldnt get mad at them or my mom, but I'm really ticked at myself. WHY CANT I JUST BE NORMAL KID :cry: :cry:


That wasn't nice of her. :( I wish I had an answer for you. I gather that you wish you could tone down your reactions to things.

Also, instead of telling yourself that you'll always mess up, how about telling yourself that you're learning? Even if that learning is happening slower than you might like? Maybe write down or tell someone about the things you've learned, because learning is valuable. Hugs, Midnightstar.


The problem is is that I get little to no interaction with other kids, even though I'm constantly running errands with my mom. When I do meet another kid, I freak out and forget everything I learn and revert back to what I would normally do.
It still stands that you are learning -- learning not only what to do but also how to break out of a habit, the latter of which is harder to do. Instead of focusing so much on gaining peer acceptance, how about taking a little "me time" for yourself? Much like caring for plants by watering them, making sure they get the proper amount of sunlight and making sure the soil is right for them, you need to give yourself the same amount of consideration to allow yourself to grow. It's not easy I know, but the good thing is that you're still fairly young and have plenty of time to make the adjustments that you need to. Besides at that age, your peers are also learning, and some in their own attempts to gain acceptance are more likely to push people down, oblivious to the consequences of their actions. I won't say there aren't people that want to genuinely want to be friends or that you should give up trying altogether, but the added effort of having to differentiate them from those who only have their own interests at heart just seems better placed on self-improvement. Also try not to berate yourself -- no one was born knowing everything, nor is it conducive to learning (if anything all it does is teach you that you're a bad person rather than a person that made a bad decision, which I'm certain is not true of you as you don't come off as a person that deliberately brings misery to others for your own pleasure).



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03 Nov 2016, 1:49 pm

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dcj123, I've always stuck to the rules even when there was clear violations, never did I question authority even when I had been wrongfully accused of something without any literal evidence whatosever.
As well, some but not all companies use those stupid online questionnaires which to me are nothing more than a version of Minnesota Multiphasic Personality Inventory which has been altered in a corporate fashion but, no less still relevant means to weed out the so-called "bad hires".


Well I really don't know what to say to that, it appears I didn't follow the rules and I was largely okay. Maybe there some other kind of discrimination there. Also the only things that burned me that I listed was 1 and 8. It does seem kind of unfair when you think about me basically being the worse employee ever. However the hire process is insane and I have never really done it successful. The job I held for two years was basically giving to me because of a case manager, my second job burnt quickly and there not an in person interview there so I hear your pain. Most clear violations at my job were from me but no one really cared. I got fired for number one on my list.

Also I would add to that list and say don't flip off other employees however, when I did that I was out and I actually don't regret that... at all...


I'll state for the record that not do not seem like a bad employee from my perspective despite a singular incidence of criminal mischief, to say that no has ever done anything even on a minor level as a misdemeanor is silly. I'll be brutally honest that I took pens from the corporation but, that is it nothing more severe or critical. In every single job I've held down regardless of duration the problem I came across is where there was always some other employee(s) getting away with things wherein, I had to turn a blind eye literally cause, often 9/10 times the management was in collusion with such so, there would be little chance of seeing actual justice.


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03 Nov 2016, 2:10 pm

Midnightstar16 wrote:
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AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA :cry: :cry: :cry:

Now I know why I don't have any friends IRL. I saw a girl with a Pokemon shirt, and I ran up to her, really happy, saying "I like your shirt!" Maybe a little too happy. She looked at me weird, and diddnt say anything, and continued on. My mom got mad at me, but eventually got over it, but now I'm steaming mad at myself for freaking out, I mean, I just couldnt controll myself! And to make it hurt even worse, mom pointed out a couple holding hands in the parking lot, and that made me upset. I know I shouldnt get mad at them or my mom, but I'm really ticked at myself. WHY CANT I JUST BE NORMAL KID :cry: :cry:


That wasn't nice of her. :( I wish I had an answer for you. I gather that you wish you could tone down your reactions to things.

Also, instead of telling yourself that you'll always mess up, how about telling yourself that you're learning? Even if that learning is happening slower than you might like? Maybe write down or tell someone about the things you've learned, because learning is valuable. Hugs, Midnightstar.


The problem is is that I get little to no interaction with other kids, even though I'm constantly running errands with my mom. When I do meet another kid, I freak out and forget everything I learn and revert back to what I would normally do.
I remember reading sometime ago that you where homeschooled. I can imagine that can make you more prone to isolation yes. Have you tried talking to your parents about it? Telling them that you need/want more sociale interactions with peers?



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03 Nov 2016, 2:31 pm

If there's ever a college on the moon, it should be called a Luniversity. :idea:


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03 Nov 2016, 2:34 pm

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If there's ever a college on the moon, it should be called a Luniversity. :idea:


I would attend it cause, I'm capable of thinking out of the ordinary


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03 Nov 2016, 3:08 pm

I'm walking around in my workout clothes... like that is going to change the fact that I havn't worked out :lol:



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03 Nov 2016, 3:14 pm

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I'm walking around in my workout clothes... like that is going to change the fact that I havn't worked out :lol:


That's okay Froya as your a human being and deserve the rights as such.


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03 Nov 2016, 3:18 pm

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I'm walking around in my workout clothes... like that is going to change the fact that I havn't worked out :lol:


That's okay Froya as your a human being and deserve the rights as such.

Now you are making me cry.. :heart:



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03 Nov 2016, 3:19 pm

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I'm walking around in my workout clothes... like that is going to change the fact that I havn't worked out :lol:


That's okay Froya as your a human being and deserve the rights as such.

Now you are making me cry.. :heart:


I don't understand as, I meant no harm or malevolence in inference nor intent.


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03 Nov 2016, 3:35 pm

^Your kindness is making me sad, because I feel that I don't deserve it.



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03 Nov 2016, 3:42 pm

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^Your kindness is making me sad, because I feel that I don't deserve it.


Froya, you fully deserve it as I could say that to dcj123 cause, the both of you are both humans despite each of your own difficulties in life on individual levels.


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03 Nov 2016, 4:00 pm

I don't deserve love,

Everyone who abuses me does it because I am mean and selfish person and I deserve,

I deserve abuse,

I am a psychopath and I do use autism as an excuse, everyone is right. I probably don't even have autism, just kill me really.

I don't know, that was negativity. I think I just feel bad, going back to bed.



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03 Nov 2016, 4:03 pm

dcj123 wrote:
I don't deserve love,

Everyone who abuses me does it because I am mean and selfish person and I deserve,

I deserve abuse,

I am a psychopath and I do use autism as an excuse, everyone is right. I probably don't even have autism, just kill me really.

I don't know, that was negativity. I think I just feel bad, going back to bed.


A psychopath would not perform self-analysis in this fashion.

You are depressed and think you are king of the s**ts, you're not, you f*****g rock.



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03 Nov 2016, 4:38 pm

I'm trying to add album art to all of my songs...