Tyri0n
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Age: 39
Gender: Male
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25 Mar 2013, 1:14 am
y-pod wrote:
May I ask if the OP grew up in an affluent family? It seems he doesn't care about "things" very much. I just want to share another perspective.
I myself grew up with very little (thus my respect for things comment in a previous post). We made our own clothes and knitted our own sweaters. Things weren't just things, it's time, energy, creativity and love all poured into them to make them nice and functional. Gosh, not to mention scraping together the money and fabric ration coupon and traveling into town to get the material. That's why I value things, especially nice ones.
You can say mass produced stuff are not like handmade things. Still, someone somewhere spent a lot of time making them. A car probably went through the hands of hundreds of people, many of them worked long and hard and with meager salary.
Not valuing human work is disrespectful. Plus car owners often need to spend several months' worth of pay to buy them. When you think that's how much commute, how many meetings, how much typing (or walking or standing), how much effort to do your job well, tolerating bosses and getting along with co-workers...etc. Well, if you have spent an entire 6 months' worth of your blood and sweat, and finally bought a nice car you love, and someone damaged it, wouldn't you be fuming about it? Don't just say they must belong to rich people so they didn't work hard for them. You don't know that. How many rich people park their cars in apartment parking? I get the impression that they usually have 6-car garages attached to their mansions.
Aspies might lack empathy instinctively, but they can learn it with their heads. As far as I know if one can not learn anything about empathy, they're probably not aspies. Most likely with some other personality disorders. My impression during my time at this forum is although aspies are generally odd, we're still mostly kind and respectful people who don't want to hurt others, and feel incredibly guilty if we did hurt them without realizing.
I myself grew up with very little (thus my respect for things comment in a previous post). We made our own clothes and knitted our own sweaters. Things weren't just things, it's time, energy, creativity and love all poured into them to make them nice and functional. Gosh, not to mention scraping together the money and fabric ration coupon and traveling into town to get the material. That's why I value things, especially nice ones.
You can say mass produced stuff are not like handmade things. Still, someone somewhere spent a lot of time making them. A car probably went through the hands of hundreds of people, many of them worked long and hard and with meager salary.
Not valuing human work is disrespectful. Plus car owners often need to spend several months' worth of pay to buy them. When you think that's how much commute, how many meetings, how much typing (or walking or standing), how much effort to do your job well, tolerating bosses and getting along with co-workers...etc. Well, if you have spent an entire 6 months' worth of your blood and sweat, and finally bought a nice car you love, and someone damaged it, wouldn't you be fuming about it? Don't just say they must belong to rich people so they didn't work hard for them. You don't know that. How many rich people park their cars in apartment parking? I get the impression that they usually have 6-car garages attached to their mansions.Aspies might lack empathy instinctively, but they can learn it with their heads. As far as I know if one can not learn anything about empathy, they're probably not aspies. Most likely with some other personality disorders. My impression during my time at this forum is although aspies are generally odd, we're still mostly kind and respectful people who don't want to hurt others, and feel incredibly guilty if we did hurt them without realizing.
Nope, never affluent. You're talking as if these things happen logically rather than simply impulsively. I feel completely differently about it than I did when I posted this now. I agree with all those who called me a horrible person.
When I get into one of my rage episodes, which usually last a few days but maybe a week or longer, I just feel like I'm in a war with the entire world, which is out to get me, and I have to fight back to protect myself.
It's not like a hallucination thing. It's more like a spin I put on actual events and circumstances. So, if someone parks in my parking spot when I get into one of my ODD/raging episodes, I feel it is either a deliberately malicious thing against me (unrealistic), but more likely, just part of a group of people who collectively hates me (or would if they knew of my existence) and wants to destroy me. It's hard to explain. I tend to think in groups rather than individuals, regardless of my mental state. It's just how my mind works.
25 Mar 2013, 5:13 pm
