Why are kids in such a rush to grow up?

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Anyone here in a rush to grow up when you were kids? If so, why?


Some kids are in a rush to grow up. I bet lot of them are because look at their shoes and clothing and underwear. All mini adult clothes. I even notice it in toddler clothing. What's changed?

When I was a kid, kids in my school were in such a rush to grow up. I saw 5th and 6th graders wearing make up when I was in 4th grade and kids in my grade thought they were too old for dolls and toys and too old to do jump rope and stuff, so all they wanted to do was chit chat which I found boring. Sometimes they do jump rope but most of the time they wanted to chit chat. One of my friends still played with dolls but she denied it in school.

Why is it that kids are in such a rush to grow up? Could it be because they don't like being told what to do and they see how grownups can eat whatever they want, go where ever they want, watch whatever they want or go to bed whenever they want and they want that same right so they maybe figure if they act grown up, their parents will treat them like they are older?

What if grown ups stopped telling their kids what to do like go to bed, take a bad, what clothes to wear, etc. maybe they won't be in such a rush to grow up and they will enjoy being kids and not trying to act all grown up. But then what good would that do, kids aren't capable of making the right choices so parents have to do it for them. They help their kids make the right decisions growing up and understand the consequences of their choices so when they reach a certain age, they get more freedom because they are old enough to understand the consequences of their choices they make. Like if they stay up too late, they are too tired the next day to go to school so they are capable of understanding they need to go to bed early so they get a good nights sleep and they won't be so tired in school the next day. Or if they wear the same clothes to school, kids will think they are a nerd and stuff so they know to not wear the same clothes everyday or else they get judged.

Kids do indeed end up in such a rush to grow up because # 1 they don't wanna be told what to do, and # 2 they think they know everything when in reality they have a lot to learn including about how to manage money and manage a household as well.

There are also some teenagers who really think they can do things on their own when they are likely not even ready for such a thing yet.

Of course some teenagers have grown up fast not because they wanted to but because they practically had no choice but to, a good example is that when my Father was 16, his Father had committed suicide, out of the 7 kids my Dad's parents had, my Dad and his 12 yr old sister were the only ones still living in that house.

My Dad was forced to grow up fast because he had to get a job to support himself and his Mom, although his 12 yr old sister moved in with their oldest sister who had 3 kids of her own (which meant my Aunt was taking care of 4 kids, her 3 kids and her youngest sister).

My Dad did manage to graduate High School but he didn't get to go to college immediately because he had to work to pay the bills in his Mom's house.

My Dad matured a lot at 16 all because well he basically had no choice, but there are unfortunately some teenagers out there at that age who are not so mature and really need to think clearly on things before proceeding with doing things.

A cousin of mine moved out of his Mom's house at age of 16 and he didn't even bother moving in with his Dad and Step-Mom either, instead he moved in with his Grandparents on his Dad's side.

My cousin did have some problems thinking clearly on things at the time and there were some issues that I did agree with my Aunt on, but there are things I agreed with my cousin on too, for instance my Aunt had psychological issues (she was later diagnosed Bipolar), and she had been involved with the controversal Jehovah's Witness religion, which my cousin was baptized into himself but when he moved in with his Grandparents on his Dad's side, he left the religion and his Mom and her Jehovah's Witness friends shunned him for this, although the shunning was cancelled after my Aunt had to go to the psych ward for a week after what I believe was a suicide attempt since my aunt mixed pills and booze together, causing her to have to be hospitalized and had no one called for help, she would've died for sure.

Around the same time of the probable suicide attempt, I was 19, my sister was 17, and my sister had moved out for the 1st time ever, but she was not as ready to handle things on her own as my Dad had been forced to do beforehand.

1st my sister moved into house of a friend of hers, then she had someone get her and well my parents and I had no idea where she was until my cousin (the same one I just mentioned) had called my parents to give details even though he promised my sister that he wouldn't do so.

Then it turned out my cousin had moved out of his grandparents home, so then he and his friend and my sister moved into a trailer belonging to another cousin of mine (the cousin that owned the trailer passed away in 2002).

But things at that trailer were 10 times worse for my sister than my house, and eventually she decided she wanted to move back in with us, and after my one aunt was out of psych, my Mom talked to her and asked her about if her son could move in with us if he did wish to do so (since he was still a minor at the time).

So when my sister moved back in, my one cousin moved in with us too although his friend continued to live with the cousin that owned the trailer, the cousin who owned the trailer had acted mean to my sister and my cousin after the moving out had occured, but my sister was pretty sad when the cousin who owned the trailer had died.

Nope, I am guessing that you don't hang with kids much. They are not in a hurry to grow up and the last thing they want is to be like you! Kids want to establish themselves as different from the stodgy backwards adults in the world and they want to establish themselves as part of the cool group of kids--with a way of being and behaving which is as unlike that of you and the adults in their life as possible. Their behaviors are not meant to make them seem like you, but make it clear to the world that they are unlike you.