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This is basically a rant. It drives me nuts when I ask a person a simple question and they give me an essay answer when two or three words would have sufficed. I just asked my sister a question that could have been answered in under 5 words and yet I had to stand there and listen to her ramble, and when she stopped to take a breath, I said "so the answer is...?". She just looked at me for a second and then gave me the info I was looking for.

Non-concise responses aggravate.

Some people...

Mom and sister do this. I do it sometimes, but I say "yes" or "no" before I ramble. I usually add the info in case like "if it's not there do this" or "if that doesn't work try this" to which no one seems to care less about because I still get a call about it.

I think it is actually a common problem associated with Aspergers. When asked for information we sometimes don't know how much to give or to what depth of explanation. I'm 49 and still have problems working out how much information to give people, especially regarding anything technical. It is easy to skim and leave them confused but also easy to go the other way and either bore or patronise them by spelling out too much detail. Difficult call.

Yes it drives me up the wall. I have two aspie friends that do this. One is autistic and the other has an AS diagnoses.

But then I find out that is how social conversations go, you add in detail. As if they are now the aspies.
I even have to shout at my friends "Yes or no" to tell them I want a simple answer, not information. I said to one of my other online friends, if I wanted more information, I would be asking questions. That's when he told me that's how social conversations go. He was also an aspie but outgrew it he says. It was suspected he had it but had now "outgrown" it.

I've notice how lot of aspies (ones I have spoken too) give me simple answers when the question was so simple to answer. But it seems like regular people have a difficulty time answering a simple question. They can't say yes or no or I don't know if they don't know the answer. I've told my autistic friend if he doesn't know the answer, just say so but don't ignore it. Even regular people do this too. How hard is it to say "I'm not sure" "I dunno" "I don't know?"

I can't stand it when people do that to me. All I want and all I can handle, is a simple yes or no question.

That really bugs the heck outta me! Yes, No, Maybe, I don't know. Four really simple answers to those really simple questions.
I find that alot of the NTs that I know have extreme difficulty saying, "I don't know." Especially the narcissistic ones.

My sister often seems unable to say "I don't know". I don't think it is narcissism in her case, she just wants to be able to answer in a helpful way. She tends to throw in answers that seem plausible to her, I usually end up stopping her and telling her just to stop guessing, I can ask other people who may know the answer.

It bothers me once it get's past a certain point. I'm a pretty patient guy, so I don't mind a little rambling, but once it get's past the 60 second mark, it starts to get annoying. If they haven't stated the answer by then, I'll usually interrupt them and ask directly. As for normal babbling, I'm guilty myself, if I get into something about one of my special interests, so I don't mind that, as long as I'm not waiting for a specific answer to something.



Oooops......Yep, it bothers me too.


Sorry, I was babbling.

Yes it bothers me when i'm desperate to know what's happening or the answer, for a guy like me who talks alot in some not all social situations, it sometimes gets to a point when it starts to annoys me.

A simple yes or no would of helped me so i won't feel such as impatient

some people just feel the need to back up what they're saying, regardless of weather or not the other person actually cares.