How close would you prefer to be to your nearest neighbor?

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Simple poll question.

At this moment, I rather prefer my neighbours to be in a different zip code since we both DON'T get along very well and her sister is very two faced... I don't even see why they are my neighbours at all... and this was when they realised when I was autistic, they suddenly decided to be really horrible to me.

But I have no choice but to live with it and move on with my life.

I just keep to myself and leave my neighbours alone.

I live in a block of flats (apartment building, as Americans would say), and it is out of choice. I like having all that activity going on around me, except if they play sensory-intolerable house music, or talk loudly after 22:00 which is when the house rules say to shut up.

My nearest neighbour (the guy whose front door is opposite mine) recently became a friend, although we never chatted in the past two years. He's more than 20 years younger than I am, and he's enjoying the friendship because he has OCD and he likes to chat to someone who 'gets' him and for whom weird is normal. I also give him advice about his OCD because I have contained and chanelled my own obsessive compulsions to harmless activities for years. He has actually come to me to ask me specifically if he could come along when I go out with my aspie friends (we have a social group that gets together once a month). In 2007 I also had another neighbour whose company I loved, and we became close friends and have maintained contact after he moved.

Last year my head was in a really bad state and I hardly had visitors at all, because I couldn't cope with seeing people. Meldowns all the time, sensory shutdowns, relationship issues, anxiety disorder, ADHD turned half-psychotic, etc., etc. I had no friends in my building last year. This year I am better, but I do still have to ensure that I spend plenty of time on my own.

I wouldn't like to live in a different building, because where I live there is a lot of racial and class diversity, and that makes me feel comfortable, because there is not a great pressure to conform to specific cultural expectations. I like having friends, as long as they are not too normal.

1 Km or further. I haven't had any issues with my neighbors yet but I like the idea of having a lot of free space around me.

I live in an apartment, but I don't really talk to anybody.

I don't mind having neighbours, as long as i don't have to see them, hear them, or smell their cooking (or other hideousnesses). I don't mind hi-density apartment living as long as those conditions are met...

-L.

...In fact, I sent a text message to my nearest neighbour on Wednesday night and handed him my shutdown card when he came in and found me sitting in a corner of my kitchen in the dark, and I indicated that he should sit next to me ans provide the pressure I needed to get over the sensory mess-up I was in. I couldn't talk much at first, but explained what was happening as I started getting my words back. I thought it was not a bad thing for him anyhow, as he is studying psychology at the university and he might as well get to know something about the weird side of autism whilst doing me this favour. He was pretty nice about it anyway.

I live in a little hamlet in rural France. Besides my house there are another 4 or 5 within around a mile. The nearest town is 5 miles away and only has 500 inhabitants. This is just how I like it. I don't like a lot of people around me.

My nearest French neighbour (1/4 mile away) walks around for coffee once a month, and that is about all the socialising I do.