Non-traditional?

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It's funny how people can get all bent outta shape over something as trivial as outdated traditions.

Wedding stuff, specifically. I read funny stuff on a whole bunch of websites like mothers freaking out when the bride chooses to wear a dress other than a white one, or fathers who get upset when the bride chooses to walk down the aisle with her fiance, instead of being "presented" or "given away".
Or even *gasp*, just including the couple's names on the invitations and not including the parents' names! (When the couples the ones paying and hosting the event themselves.)

But maybe it's like a steryotypical aspie getting all mad when he comes back to his bedroom only to find the stuff on his dresser rearranged.

I'm not traditional, or modern. I'm what people would call vintage.

also, people don't like to feel left out (parent's names not on the invite), they don't like not knowing how to behave or what to expect at formal events, they often look forward to "milestone" things they've seen and heard of forever.

they eagerly await their turn to "give their daughter away" or catch the flowers thrown by the bride or what have you, and they feel like it's unfair somehow when they're "denied" their turn. it's like, even if they hate green beans, some people would be upset if they learned this killer recipe for them because green beans are *always* served on christmas, or were when they were growing up.

then finally, they're grown up. it's christmas. they're ready to make and serve this killer recipe and then enjoy the compliments, "oh my, what delicious green beans." but...suddenly, green beans are out. old hat. no, you're told, we won't have those!

it makes them sad....

There's been a marketing philosophy for about the last century... everything new is good and everything old is bad... including using the words good and bad....

@CleverKitten - are you actually getting married by any chance, it sounds as if you are? if so good luck on the day.

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yeah, i think maybe it's a holdover from when women were more like property.

myself, i've never been to a funeral (and yet, have seen people die, people i loved), had two utterly sudden and completely nontraditional weddings, took a test in highschool and got out, thus skipping the prom, never been to a reunion of any sort, and on holidays i do whatever seems best, from nothing at all to playing piano at a homeless dinner to .... well, that's endless, actually. seriously, i do whatever.

my point is, i don't think i've done (or much thought about) all the traditional stuff. it's not to my personal taste, plus i'm shy around groups. i was just trying to answer the question based on what people have told me and what i've observed over time.