Why did she hate me?

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This girl who used to be my best friend. I might have mentioned her before. She and I used to have a lot of fun, then she started hanging out with me less, and eventually when I asked her about it, she told me it was because when she was with me, people seemed to like her less. So she ditched me. Go figure.
Anyways, I can at least understand the stupid logic behind her doing that.
What really puzzled me, was a couple days ago, I found out from my other, REAL friend, that this stupid ex-friend had approached her about me, and told her she should stop hanging out with me, and I was essentially the reason she wasn't making any friends. I was "holding her back" from popularity. My good friend dismissed the stupid ex-friend's notion, and kept being my friend. The ex friend stopped hanging out with her, too. Because she was still hanging out with me.
What I don't get, is why would the ex-friend want me to lose that friend, too? The ex friend is very pretty, but my real friend is drop-dead gorgeous. Guys really love her, and she's so nice, you're jealousy towards her for being so pretty can never really turn sour. Did my ex-friend want to associate with her because she's pretty?
Why would she do that?
The good news is now, most everyone hates my ex-friend, because she's so hot and cold, and will ignore people for weeks, and then pretend like she's their best friend when she needs something or is bored. She's also a massive flirt and a major b***h. She hits guys really hard. I told people what she did to me, and they all thought it was really cruel, and said they loved me.
Hehe, and the girl who kept being my friend, is very popular now, and I'm well-liked, too.
Why would the mean one do that though? I can't understand. I've NEVER done anything mean to her. I'd only ever been nice, and hung out with her, and payed for things for her far more than I should have. So why?

Welcome to the world of NT's. I have never understood that kind of behavior either.

Your ex-friend seems to sounds very manipulative and an attention seeker from what I've read, those are the types of people you might want to avoid. Maybe she might be jealous of you that your more friends with her than she is?

The fact that the friend you seem to like has been hanging around you less and less because your ex-friend said so, it would make her a jerk, I wonder how many times she gets dumped? I wouldn't be surprised if so many times.

She sounds a lot like someone I know, but more mean-hearted. She probably wanted someone new to hang out with or wanted to look better since your real friend is really gorgeous, and that's why she tried to get your real friend to stop hanging out with you.

I had this friend (we aren't friends anymore-everytime she gets a bf she doesn't need actual friends) who I guess was sort of embarrassed...no, was embarrassed...by me sometimes. She only wanted me to go with her certain places because of how I would dress/what I would say/what people would say about me when I wasn't there. It made me think I was doing something terribly wrong and sometimes I even tried to change little things like what I wore or be 'nicer', but I've learned I wasn't really doing anything wrong; it was her problem. I think it's the same with your ex-friend. Some girls (or some people) care so much about what people think that they just can't be friends with someone unlike them. I don't care very much about what others think, so her and I weren't ideal friends.

I'm glad you have a real friend It's hard for me to find those. I have a couple, but none that live close. My 'ex' friend is the one that lives nearby, lol.

I used to have a friend who is a lot like that. The other girls she used to be friends with don't want to know her now. They have seen her for what she really is. You don't need "friends" like that. I'm sure she will get her comeuppance one day. Still, as for my former friend and your former friend... it's their loss, not ours.