Children vs. adults I don't get it?! !!

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I have 2 little sisters 8&10 and the 8 year old did summer school (a science class) and mom was a normal mom have fun? like your teacher? Meet any friends? etc. and yet I remember College I was like I learned X in Psychology class. Family: Oh we already know that! If I say what I learn today I got a negative remark I learned about Freud (Who's he?! !!) He did Dream Interpretation (I don't care about that s**t!) I'm not a simple I did a test kind of person.

I thought Freud was pronounced Frood my Nanny was OMG how could you not know how to pronounce his name even I know it's pronounced Freud (to this my psychology teachers response was it's a common mistake probably just said that to make me feel better though) If I like my teacher it's a negative behavior. When I mention making friends it's you need to focus on your studies so you don't mess up again. IMO HEY how about ME making friends! Why do they talk all sweety make friends oh you like your teacher but when I LIKE my teacher it turns into an issue. (Mind you YES looking back I went to her office too much) but still I can't make friends? Like my teacher? I don't get it?! !! !

I don't understand what you mean, but Freud should be pronounced something like "Froyd".

Well what I mean is children get the oh sweet responses then I get the ones I mention above. That was the main point. Sorry if I confused you or anyone.

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It can get a little imbalanced sometimes. Children are often over-praised to the point that they feel that they deserve praise no matter what they do. Definitely not psychologically healthy.

Then the converse can be true when certain adults (and many aspies) find that no matter what they do it's never 'right' or 'good enough'. (This is actually a form of bullying--see below).

What is bullying?
* constant nit-picking, fault-finding and criticism of a trivial nature - the triviality, regularity and frequency betray bullying; often there is a grain of truth (but only a grain) in the criticism to fool you into believing the criticism has validity, which it does not; often, the criticism is based on distortion, misrepresentation or fabrication
* simultaneous with the criticism, a constant refusal to acknowledge you and your contributions and achievements or to recognise your existence and value
* constant attempts to undermine you and your position, status, worth, value and potential
* when you are in a group, being singled out and treated differently; for instance, everyone else can get away with murder but the moment you put a foot wrong - however trivial - action is taken against you
* being belittled, demeaned and patronised, especially in front of others
* having unrealistic goals set, which change as you approach them
* finding that everything you say and do is twisted, distorted and misrepresented

http://www.bullyonline.org/workbully/amibeing.htm

I don't know quite what this thread is talking about. I'm guessing something about Freud.

Yay! Frood!

I think I understand the problem.

Can you express your frustration to your parents and grand mother?

Perhaps they don't realise they're doing this and all they need is for you to point out how you feel?

Maybe you're just venting and don't want advice. In which case...I hope you feel better now.