Absolutely Mortifying Experience

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Okay, so, I was enrolled in photography classes for another semester, and my brother was enrolled for the first time. I'm homeschooled, and these classes are specifically for homeschooled kids. Many of them happen to be religious (Christian, to be specific) and I have absolutely no problem with that, and neither does my brother. But my mother certainly does. Just yesterday, when I was going with my brother to the first class, my mother decided to have a stop and chat with the teachers and stuff. She started complaining about this homeschooling organization, because many of the people there have religious beliefs, and she doesn't like that, presumably because she is self-obsessed and thinks that everyone in the world should be molded to her image, not any God's. She said that me and my siblings never made friends there, and one of the girls (one of my friends!) said, "Oh, well that's odd." I believe it is odd, because it's odd for someone not to make friends, when they're surrounded by other people, since the amount of homeschooled kids in my area is remarkably high. But, how dare anyone prove my mother wrong, right? So there she goes, blabbing about how awful religion is, and how it's stupid for people to believe in so many fake stories. The teacher is trying to change the subject by talking about the classes Then, my mom leaves, as if nothing terrible happened at all.
I just sit there, mortified, while two of my friends sit in awkward silence.
Class was fun, but afterwards, my mom decided to mortify me even more, by saying, "Come on, kids, let's go read the Bible." and runs out of the room before anyone can chastise her for it. I run, too, because I'm so embarrassed.
She's supposed to be a grown woman, and a mother, and she can't be bothered to respect other people's beliefs. She just bashed thousands of years of tradition. And she's just going to walk away clean.
Should I say anything about this to her? Note, that this has happened before, as referenced by my previous post, "Racism Against Germans". I am also very afraid of her, even though I try not to be.
If I can't do this, I'm thinking about apologizing on her behalf to my friends that she may have offended. Should I do that, or would it be wrong? Please help! I can't stand her!

one important lesson you have to learn, is that the adults in your life [especially your parents] have feet of clay.

Dear ParrotGhost119,

Most important to me is your age....if you are 16 years old, say, can you endure 2 more years of her?
You can graduate high school, be legally an adult, get a job, and get out.

The only other way to escape if you are a minor is to prove abuse, and frankly, they must rescue the physically/sexually abused kids first, and the psychologically/verbally abused kids are not really considered 'in danger'.

Is your father around?
How is your communication with him?
Can he take you to school instead of her?
If they are not together, is living with him an option?
If feel that you are in an emotionally destructive home, and I hope that you can find a way out.
She will not change, and this is hurting you and your siblings.

Sylkat

Your Mom sounds autistic. I'm an atheist, and often complain about religion in forums, but what she did sounds inappropriate. At least be smart and clever about it, get to know someone before you engage them on their core beliefs! Also, my brother was homeschooled, and most of those kids were religious too.

To Rascal77s, AspE, Sylkat, Auntblabby,
I talked to my mom about this the next week. This didn't help at all, and she just proceeded to tell me about how my friends would brainwash me into believing what they believe. That is exactly what she's trying to do, is it not?
My parents are still together, and I'd like living with my dad as much as I do as now. He has no opinions of his own, and he always enforces whatever mom believes and says nothing about when she's being biased.
It's like Haiti when the French controlled it. The French are my parents, and the Haitians are basically just me. My siblings don't see anything wrong with my parents' behavior. But no matter how hard I try to make things more fair for me, I get reminded that change isn't possible.
Let me give more info.
Last year, I was what one would call a slut. Not that I thought I was a slut. You may think being a slut is hard for a homeschooled girl, since they aren't around other kids that much (only in my case), but it's pretty easy. All you need is a computer. I shared compromising pictures of myself with complete strangers, all because I was mad at someone who actually cared about me. I cheated on my boyfriend, and that is what I regret the most. But now that my mother found out about my boyfriend and the pictures, I now have no rights. I can't use Facebook, can't have boys OR girls in my room on account of the fact that I sent my pics to boys and girls, can't talk to anyone on the computer. The only reason I'm on this site is because it's the only site I was a member to prior to her finding out about everything that didn't have any ties to any of the stuff I did get in trouble for.
Now, she uses the most annoying terms for my behavior then, AND my innocent behavior now. "Oh, you want to lose your virginity? Stop being a slut." "No slutting in my house." "You're a slut if you'd like a mature relationship." Why is it wrong for me to want any of these things?
I can't wait until I move.

1: That sucks
2: Everyone eventually runs into walls that challenges us
3: Not everyone really matures and enjoys spewing that fact on everyone else
4: When your parents resort to name calling, there's something seriously wrong with them (unless they are "teasing you, which your's are not)
5: Your not a slut unless you practice *** irresponsibly, well that's the proper meaning now its just a silly "dumbed down" slang apparently
6: At least your at that stage in relationship and you enjoyed it, I'm still in the loner/pervert stage. (not physically i just get horny once in a while)
7: When you confront your family about your beliefs and how your not going to change who you are for them and they don't show respect for it, don't even suggest to yourself that they will change your mind, because every week that passes by and they don't change you get more torn up in the inside.

TheThinkingAthiest on youtube even told me on his podcast that his family still sends mail trying to "save him" or condemns him after telling them that he was an atheist years ago! (true story)

8: ^ you did the right thing by telling them though. Even if they don't accept it.
9: If they routinely Embarrassing you just ignore it.
10: Don't fight parents back you rarely win and when you do it can end unsatisfying or the parents will make it so it is.
11: If you do, pick your fights carefully.
12: Don't let the good times roll, keep and try to live the most out of it.
13: if you want to keep a distance from your parents try to join a sports team or group.
14: I am not a professional so take this with a grain of salt.

Dear ParrotGhost119,
this is probably not what you want to hear, but your mother's reaction to your pictures on the computer is exactly what I would do!

Whatever her emotions about this, anger, control, I don't know, and her hostile words, my feelings are that you are so vulnerable, those dangerous people ARE out there, the most important thing here is for you to be safe!

I absolutely hate that teenagers and pre-teens trust MySpace and Facebook; you Do NOT know who you are talking to!

People, teen-aged girls mostly, but others, adults thinking they are meeting a 'friend' or potential boy-or girlfriend, are being hurt, and in some cases, killed...

I agree that there is something very wrong in your family, BUT the Internet is NOT where you (anyone) should disclose personal information, not about being a 'slut', but about being a potential victim.

Please, please, be careful, no more pictures, and NEVER your real name and/or birthdate!

Is there any way to remove those pictures?

Sylkat