How can I get through this?

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Tommorow night I am going to a friends engagment party. most of my close friends should be there but the problem is there seving alchol at the club were having the party at.

My friend has got a big family and some of them are quite rough and from the wrong side of the tracks unfourtnatly my AS makes me an easy target to get bullied and i can look awkward and not relaxed which might make things worse. i can appear withdrawn sometimes and not realise that i look angry, sad or bored.

I do not want to get into a fight fuelled by alcohol so any advice?

I have to go to this becasue i will let my friend down if I don't or could I explain to him my fears and concerns?

I deal with these scenarios by looking like i'm ready to cut a couple of throats. I wouldn't, but we're takling about people who react to you on the basis of what you look like, not who you are. People who actually make a bit of effort to get to know me are pleasantly rewarded. And if someone is stupid enough too turn on me cos they thought they'd get away with it i just let fly with a condensed spray of hatred and rage. Someone compared it to the alien mother from Aliens. Shuts the whole party down, but hoooo boy they don't do it again I can promise you. Oh and I don't get invited to parties where I'm likely to rip someone apart, thanks to my willingness to express my displeasure.
Works a treat. Give it a go. (oh I'm 6'3 and 110kg with facial piercings )
Sweetness and Light,
G

carry an empty glass with you, and when they pester you, hand them the glass. They'll see it coming for them and the instinct will be to accept it. You can then say thank you to them for taking your glass away - it was a martini.

This should puzzle them long enough for you to find another corner, or a group of people / your friend, and surround yourself with protective others.

Incidently, once the happy couple leaves, you're socially free to leave too.