Cant stand the holidays

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I think it has finally happend. I wish it werent the Christmas season. I used to work retail, black friday is hell. people pushing and shoving and breaking down doors to trample people to death, being twice as jerkish than usual, all in the name of the birth of Christ?

I have decided that i do not want anything for Christmas, in fact, i dont even want to spend the holiday with my family. Im lucky to be the assistant manager of a convenience store. I have signed up for the thanksgiving day 7-3 shift. i plan to stay home on black friday, not go out at all, not even for a coffee, sort of a one man boycott of the wanton materialism that Christmas has been perverted to.

Ive had a tough couple of months. my mother caught me using dip tobacco, so im in nicotine withdrawal. i came to realize that my church was part of the prosperity movement (working poor people not welcome), i have become hyper aware of my aspie characteristics, i am ashamed and embarrassed on a daily...no, hourly basis.

I feel like im not really living, just going through a cycle, work-home-sleep-work-home-sleep and so on. I believe, though never dx'd that i have seasonal affective disorder, and Christmas is part of the cold dark season in this area.

Im going to be 24 in january, i still live with my mother. i want to get my own place, but i lack the skills to apartment search.

Id like some advice:

-Should i sign up for a 16 hour shift and work on Christmas day?
-How do i tell my family that i really dont give a crap about Christmas gifts?

I am so ashamed of who i am, a jaded, cynical, zombie-slave who cant keep his foot out of his mouth. the public sickens me, i hate people.

another question: one symptom of depression is having "down" feeling for two weeks or more. does it have to be two weeks continuous, or can you have a few good days then several bad then a few more good?

Consecutive versus cumulative?

I hear you. I work retail and lets just say if Jesus was alive he would be confused.

I dont think He would be confused he has foreknowledge of everything, i think He'd be pissed at what people are doing in His name.

Christmas started as a pagan festival, adapted to Christianity, i think the (money worshipping) pagans have taken it back

Christmas has become so commercialized that people have forgotten the true meaning of Christmas...

No longer are we allowed to hear the traditional music so common years ago..."All come All ye' Faithful, Silent Night, and other christian music. Nor can we say, "Merry Christmas" but we are required to say, "Happy Holidays." ...rather ironic as "Happy Holidays" is really, Happy Holy day...change the "y" to an "i"...

I am truly disgusted with what Christmas has become...

I hate to brake it to anyone, but Christmas has always been commercial. Christmas as we know it is a Victorian construct to appease the conscience of the wealthy and placate the poor. Most of the most famous Christmas stories, e.g., A Christmas Tale, were written during this period. If there were a Christ, obviously he would not have been born in the winter in a manger.

You should really take the time to study the history of Christmas. It is fascinating and very informative. Plus a good part of our economy has been built around Christmas spending.

i love christmas. in the past, i hated the rat race at the mall but now i freaking LOVE it!
It puts me in such a good mood to see people so happy buying cool stuff for the holidays!
all the musics, reindeer, gingerbread houses i mean really!

I, state your name, solemnly swear to spend no money on friday and not to go out except to work. Viva la antiblackfriday revolucion!

We have found our leader. We have found our battle cry. Don't cry for me Macy's.

I like the holiday season. I may hate going shopping but that doesn't mean I can't take advantage the sales and order online.

Christmas sucks.

Gift giving makes me very uncomfortable. I just can't manage to say the words "Thank you" the way I think people want to hear them. It almost hurts. Im not religious, so there's no appeal there either. The truth is I like my family but I don't ever want to spend time with them. I'm a hermit in the making.

i hate the holidays for a lot of reasons so I'll throw them together
1. they have been the same for a few years now for myself and my immediate family
2. i know im not buying gifts or getting gifts from friends
3. my extended family has been absent for over 3 years
4. the happiness and giddiness and the same old holiday talk
5. working in retail as well so we get all the weird one time neurotic anxious customers
6. i do want some things but i have also learned to live without and im fine with that.
7. the romanticism and the looming new years loneliness to end another year of singledom and begin the year alone again.
8. the commercialism and the upswing of christian talk from all around

Interesting views. I like the happiness of the season and think from a Psychology eye analyzing the holiday would be a blast!! !! I understand the shopping part has commercialized it yes but I look at the aspect of family time and peace 1 day out of the year! Luckily My local town isn't some huge city so the trampling etc. doesn't happen around here and most people in my city are respectful. I'm sorry some of you dislike the holiday so much. I understand if your family is a hassle like mine but I think of the kids my little sisters and nephew and not seeing them. I can't wait to see them open there gifts. I plan for this months in advance. (I bought the nephew 2 $10 (regularly $40!) talking Woody and Buzz and have had them put up since January!! !! ! LOL! I already bought a Toy Story stocking and plan on buying TS wrapping and ornaments as well. What a joyous time of year.

You might think a Curmudgeon would be all Bah! Humbug!-y this time of year, but I like to be contrary, so I take a break from my crabby, cynical personality and relax into the season. I make it clear what kind of Christmas I want--small presents, one party, no fruitcakes--but if people violate the Rules they keep their heads. It's fun to relax and be nice and non-judgmental...for a few days.

I find giving and receiving gifts to be stressful. I always feel vaguely guilty about getting a gift, maybe because I don't feel that I am grateful enough. And giving gifts is embarrassing because it's hard to know what to get and it often seems to be the wrong thing. Ack!

But I like the cheesy aesthetics of Christmas, the sparkly Xmas trees and the shiny glass ornaments.

I dislike the holidays for so many reasons that it's not possible to list them here. But essentially, the holidays are all the social conventions that elude my understanding, kicked into overdrive, with the volume maxed out and everything thrown up in my face.

It makes me want to hide in a cave until it's safe to come out.

I dislike Christmas too. I hate the way it interrupts normal life, all the expectations, all the fake cheer. And maybe it just my perception, but during the shopping madness in December, I seldom see people looking less than harassed and tired and irritated.