Do some of the older people on the site have life lessons?

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Or that can provide an insight into how a life should be lived? The more you grow up the more you learn about life and this moment I feel like I've figured it all out already. Yet some older guys here say that they learned stuff like this all their life. I don't actually feel like waiting that long and I'm wondering if some of the guys here can provide some insight into this stuff?

Often you will hear some advices or quotes that sound good but neutral. Once I heard that it would be a bad idea to work with either friends, family or loved ones. When I heard it, I imagined what could go wrong, I thought it was a good piece of advice yet I did only felt it after I forgot it and worked with friends. It was only during the experience, when I fully understood the advice.

If you state now you figured it all out, there is a very high risk you'll get surprised by the obvious next event in the coming you have not seen. You'll feel angry that you would not see it coming. Each time you will try to learn more in order not to be surprised again, but you'll be surprised over and over by some tiny details you failed to notice... Angry and never feeling satisfied all your life because you never succeed to figure it all out.

Now, imagine you accept that you'll never figure it all out, and because that's normal and nobody will ever figure it all out, you will put yourself in a more realistic posture in front of life, the anger that you would feel towards you because of repetitive failures, just vanishes. Only because you change your state of mind, everything changes.

Everything is in the details, nobody can make you experience his advice.

Always be yourself, no matter what.

Never take gear that you don't really need

Live life the way you want to live it, and do that while remaining ever-willing to change the way you want to live it.


As "Professor Kingsfield" (in "The Paper Chase", an old movie) would say: "I can assure you: That is a delusion. You will never arrive at the final, correct answer since every answer always brings along more questions."


Only the teachable ones.


That will not change anything.


I do not understand why I had so much drive and energy prior to gaining more than a modicum of wisdom, but I can now suggest more caution in your youth so all will not be spent prior to knowing what to actually do.

A person cannot be president or vice-president in the United States unless they are age 35. That says something about the time it can take to slowly develop a kind of political maturity. In terms of trying to essence out basic values, more than one non-profit religion holds up the idea of love/the Golden Rule as providing some sort of insight into the notion of (ideal) values. "When I was a boy of 14, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be 21, I was astonished at how much the old man had learned in seven years." - Mark Twain

The In-Depth Life Discussion folder on here is a gold mine for such lessons.

Don't be afraid of change. Being a creature of habit is one thing, but being terrified that things won't go the way you imagine them to is just going to drive you insane. All people I've ever met that I don't respect have one thing in common. They live their life in fear. Fear of anything, whether it's God, government, women, or whatever, is a recipe for unhappiness. The happiest time of my life was when I accepted the fact that nothing is static, especially not people, and certainly not me. I don't know everything, but I am satisfied with the knowledge I have. It doesn't mean that I want to stop learning, but the most important things in my life I have generally figured out. So many people pay attention to what others are doing that they neglect themselves. Whether they are blaming other people for problems in society, or they are helping everyone that needs help, the result is the same: self-neglect. So pay attention to yourself, love yourself, be yourself, and everything else will fall into place. This goes for careers, women, everything. Don't try too hard, for that matter, don't try at all. You don't need to try to be yourself.

there is an old aphorism, "if you think you are doing well, you've stopped thinking."

I realized once that death comes really fast, so that no matter how old you are when you die it seems too soon. And since that's the case, how many useless pursuits should I waste my time on? The only thing I can really do is work on who I am as a person. The rest is secondary. My life won't be remembered in the grand scheme of things. It's inconsequential, so I can relax. I may as well help people who are less fortunate.

When we are young, we seem to have an inbuilt expectation that life should be perfect.
When we find out it doesnt go anywhere near as well as we hoped, it can make us depressed and not enjoy the parts of our life that our enjoyable.
So,
Enjoy the enjoyable parts of life, that will make the bad parts more bearable, rather than letting the bad parts of life stop you enjoying the good parts.

Its called being positive, (I think)?



Also, you are a unique creation, look after it and make the most of yourself, (that means be nice, stand straight, dont swear or steal, etc), the world tries to make it seem cool to lower yourself, almost to an animalistic level, the worlds lying, dont belive it, you will feel better about yourself if you aim higher.

Don't read and drive.

I'm half way to 70.

i'm in the september of my years.

OK, at 62 I will give you some advice.

Don't worry about what people THINK you SHOULD do. If you are happy being a lawnmower man in a small town then do it.

The modern world will tell you that money = success = worth.

How much money did Daniel Boon or Davey Crocket have?

Do you want a girlfriend or boyfriend?
Don't go after the "jocks" or the "cheerleaders". They are creeps anyway.
There probably is someone for you.

Don't get sucked in by the advertising that says you should have a new pair of shoes every week and you "deserve" a $100 bottle of skin cream.

You KNOW that money, looks and fame will not make you happy because you read the gossip magazines that tell you that even the top movie stars can't stay married for more a year or two.

Life will NOT go as you hoped or expected but perhaps that is not bad. If you lose a job then perhaps you will get a better one. If your partner leaves you then perhaps you will find someone better.

My answer is within the question; Am I still teachable?