cathylynn wrote:
shortfatbalduglyman wrote:
resentments (grudges) are generally more harmful than helpful.
https://hubpages.com/health/Forgive-You ... ResentmentCathy Lynn
Your article is very good
But it's so unnatural for me to forgive anyone for anything
The counselor told me that if forgiveness is too much, the next best thing is
suppression
repression
The problem is that I feel obsessed with things that happened when I was 12 and 21 years old
And now I am 35
Homophobia
Social rejection
Flunking out structural Engineering
Autism diagnosis
Clinical depression diagnosis
The current situation is much better
But my emotional resilience now is much worse
Sooner or later when things get worse I won't be able to cope
Merely reading one article, regardless of quality, won't get someone from grudge to forgiveness
That's like saying reading a book about skateboarding doesn't make someone ride a skateboard
Instead what I am trying and failing to do
is just move forward with my "life"
But nobody will hire me or be my precious lil "friend"
They are not wrong or right
They just grossly misunderstand me
But autism, homophobia, and clinical depression are easily misunderstood.
And there are a lot of misconceptions