I only began to value male relationships recently, but this probably has a lot to do with my father, who didn't like me.
This seems like the best place to discuss the difference between having an AS mother and an AS father. I think that AS is more common in men because it has more adverse effects on mothering than fathering. I think that my mother got it from her dad, and wound up feeling closer to him than her mother. She would have been happy to stay in her career, but the economy shifted, and her parents wanted grandkids.
My parents came from different backgrounds, and the love did not last. As the second child, I was not a novelty. My sister was expected to teach me what she had been told, but would rather have stayed an only child, and was no teacher at that age. I was given everything my parents had wanted, but not much of what they actually had, like personal attention. Mother had low tolerance for noise, so I was just quarantined if I was crying but not bleeding.
I understood from an early age that my parents' job was to provide all the basics and some toys, and mine was to make them look normal and in control if I wanted to stay in the family. Mother gave up on looking normal and left when I was 15, and dad kicked me out at 17, telling mom that it was my choice. She only heard my side when she was dying, and then told me not to call her again.