What do you think of your parents?

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I love mine, they are very loving and supportive. However I don't kiss the ground they walk on, I know everyone isn't perfect.

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I did a poll on another forum and 80% reported some kind of positive relationship with their folks, 10% reported a neutral relationship and 10% reported a negative relationship. I have looked at other polls and threads online and see the same 80-10-10 pattern pretty much everywhere. I wonder if it's different or the same with Aspies.

I've been very fortunate to have very supportive and good parents, though they haven't always been able to understand me, though that may have been my fault in not expressing myself properly in the past.

My answer is kind of hard to explain. I like my dad a lot, but he can't really be a father figure since he has/had a lot of problems of his own, mainly alcoholism (which he overcame) and depression. On the other hand, my mom is a b***h and I wouldn't miss her at all if she died, but I'm stuck living with her.

i don't care at all about them.... I doubt i would cry if they died.

You have no poll option for this.

When I was younger I used to think, 'why didn't they sort their own problems out before having kids and passing them all on?'

I get on with them well enough. I accept them. I think they mostly accept me. I will probably miss them.

can i edit the poll? i missed an option

They did the best that they could.

I never see my father, due to him living hundreds of miles away and me really finding him a damaging person to be around. I've been expecting him to die for years, I'm surprised he's lived this long. There may be an element of regret when he dies.

I see my mother every week and we talk on the phone most days. I didn't used to depend on her during my twenties, but since my life completely collapsed she is the only person I see.
So, I suppose I am afraid about what will happen when she dies. But I honestly don't know how I will feel until it happens.

I couldn't see a poll option for my situation, as my parents are not one entity.

My Mum was lovely; all warm and cuddly but she died when I was ten so I never really got to know her. Older people who did know her better tell me she was very funny with a wicked sense of humour - which I seem to have inherited somehow, so that's nice.
My Dad was a bit strict/hard and rather unapproachable when I was younger but we got on much better during the last 20 years or so of his life (he died at 94.5 years old just over a year ago), so I'm happy we eventually parted as friends.

I love them, but we only get along when I live abroad.

My parents really love me and I love them back. They are uber-liberal secular humanists/athiests and very open and understanding of everyhing, so I don't get into arguments about anything because they look at things the same way as I do. My dad doesn't spend too much time with me, being a lawyer and a coach. I'm not into sports, so we find other common grounds. He likes music, and I like music, and he likes the ocean like I do so we have some things in common. However, he has a temper and is very pessimistic. My mom is very philosophical and loves animals and nature. She was a vet when she was younger, and she nurtured a love for all things natural in me. I'm becoming a biologist partly because of her. Whenever I need someone to talk to about issues, I go to them.
If they die anytime soon, I'd be absolutely heartbroken.

Mine are very caring & done more for me than most parents would but we never had a close relationship & we had lots of problems getting along because of my many different issues.

You didn't put any negative options to choose from - I hate my mother.

It's not just that we're not close, she was abusive, allowed others to abuse me, she nearly murdered me a few times, had no problems with my being homeless, constantly tried to put me up for adoption as a kid, she lies about me, she's lazy, ignorant and selfish...she acts like all this is okay because it's somehow my fault we don't have a mother/daughter relationship. Being my mother if she was to die it'd be a bit of a blow, but those feelings would pass and I'd not be upset.