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Jamesy
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14 Aug 2011, 7:02 pm

I was at work today and me and my friend were talking too this women about something important. she looked at my friend and was smiling at him and her eyes looked excited. i tried too be civil but she looked less excited when she looked at me and i had too start talking too get her attention away from my friend. when she did look at me her eye contact was brief and her eyes quickly darted back too my friend. also when she looked in my direction me she looked less happy and did not really smile.

if it was not for me talking too her i don't think she would have looked or paid attention too me..

what would her body language/behaviour towards me imply? Be as honest as you want when answering this quesiton.

me and my friend are both guys by the way.



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14 Aug 2011, 7:06 pm

She likes your friend and you are in the way. She wishes you'd go and take a walk.



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14 Aug 2011, 7:25 pm

RightGalaxy wrote:
She likes your friend and you are in the way. She wishes you'd go and take a walk.

Seconded.

Let those two enjoy their relationship without you butting in.



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14 Aug 2011, 7:41 pm

I think u guys misunderstand. this was in PROFFESIONAL working enviorment NOT a nightclub so i had too talk too her. i had no choice too go and take a 'walk' as you say overwise i would be fired.

There not in a relationship either.



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14 Aug 2011, 7:42 pm

I understand. Business is business, just butt out when the business is over.



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14 Aug 2011, 7:45 pm

Fair enough but don't you think she was being rather rude treating me like i don't exist?

She could get into trouble techinically for her behaviour since you have too try and be nice too everyone in the work place.



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14 Aug 2011, 7:50 pm

Jamesy wrote:
Fair enough but don't you think she was being rather rude treating me like i don't exist?

Yes, but so what? It wouldn't be the first time that a woman felt contempt for someone who interrupted her flirting.
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She could get into trouble techinically for her behaviour since you have too try and be nice too everyone in the work place.

Do you now? There is nice (civil and business-like), and there is nice (caring, sharing, flirting, et cetera).

On the one hand, it really doesn't matter because she wasn't your girlfriend in the first place, right?

On the other hand, you could report her, and then get a stern lecture from your boss and/or HR for filing a frivolous complaint.

On the gripping hand, you would be better of to just get back to work and forget about it.



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14 Aug 2011, 7:56 pm

NO she was not my girlfriend but i like girls too show interest in me. could not stand it when my friend was getting all the attention i wasn't.



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14 Aug 2011, 7:58 pm

Jealousy.

Get over it.



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14 Aug 2011, 8:02 pm

From the brief information here I would interpret the meaning in one of two ways; neither in your favour I'm afraid. Either, as suggested by several posters, she has a personal interest in your friend and your company was not appreciated or she has a business interest in your friend. That is, she thinks that she can gain more by influencing your friend than she can through influencing you.

My interpretation may be well off the mark. I have AS and thus not a great success at personal relationships but I have had some fair successful in business though.



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14 Aug 2011, 8:08 pm

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14 Aug 2011, 8:16 pm

Wats gotten up your arse today Fnord? Don't take it your lack of success with women on me dude.



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15 Aug 2011, 7:36 am

^^ Says Jamesy, who asked:

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what would her body language/behaviour towards me imply? Be as honest as you want when answering this quesiton.
Fnord and others have honestly explained what's likely going on there.

But I'm puzzled: elsewhere you've said you don't have a job (WRT moving into your own flat).
Also, you said above that you're 38 but underneath your avatar it says you're 21.


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15 Aug 2011, 8:08 am

Your question is what did her behaviour imply.
The answer is that she wanted you to let her pay attention to the other guy.

If you want to ask about other aspects of the interaction, like whether it was the right thing for her to do, or if she's a nice person, or whether you have the right to feel hurt, or what you could do to get her to smile in the same way at you, then you have to ask the question. Otherwise, you just get a bunch of people on here telling you that she wanted you to be quiet. Do you see the difference?



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15 Aug 2011, 9:06 am

Jamesy wrote:
Wats gotten up your arse today Fnord? Don't take it your lack of success with women on me dude.

I've been married to the same woman for almost 20 years, and we have 3 children ... so who has a lack of "success"? Not I.

Face it, kid; your co-worker is not interested in you. So stop whining about wanting something that isn't meant to be yours and get on with your own life.



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15 Aug 2011, 1:06 pm

Fnord wrote:
RightGalaxy wrote:
She likes your friend and you are in the way. She wishes you'd go and take a walk.

Seconded.

Let those two enjoy their relationship without you butting in.


I agree. They want to be left alone.


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