Do parents love more their brillant sons?

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Do parents love their brillant children more than their .....dumb/no-brillant/BadAtSchool children?



I always had this feeling ............

Ah yes, the age old question. It depends on their veiw. If they're utter idiots and unfair buggers, then they'll neglet them and probably treat them badly. However, if they're kind, considerate and well meaning, they'll treat them just as well as their other kids (results will vary on how they actually do treat their normal kids)!

My older brother dropped out of school just a few weeks before his exams. He got a very successful job & is doing as well as anyone else who has finished school.

My younger brother stayed on to finish his exams, but has never really done very well in school. He is dyslexia & has ADHD. He has gone trough so many jobs and cant stand them so he quits. He has recently started collage and is training in professional cookery.

My parents still think my brother who dropped out of school early is much brighter. Yet I think my brother with dyslexia & ADHD is extremely bright. I am very proud of him!!

We are two brothers, I'm the elder. I'm aspie, my brother is NT. Both of us are smarter than the average person, I'm much smarter. None of us have been very successful in getting jobs, girlfriends etc. My father used to like my brother more, but since I got my diagnosis, both of my parents like me the most, no doubt about it. They know my brain is superior, even if it's an aspie one. They know that I'm the one that'd deserved a much better life than this hell on earth.

My mother liked my brother better then me but I am adopted and he was a "momma boy"...I dont think it has anything to do with our academic preformance,it is a personality thing.She relates to him better,they are more compatible as people and it makes sense to me that she would prefer his company.I dont feel bad about this,it is not either of their "faults".(I dont really care for either of them so I cant whine about it)I do think it is a sign of emotional immaturity when a parent "likes" a child because they are successful and they can brag about it to their friends.They are not really "liking " the child,they are liking the status the childs success brings them through "extension"..pretty childish(IMO)