Should I just give up on being alone?

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See, I just realized recently that having 'friends' is not at all what would make me less lonely. I mean, it would for the short term, but clearly my problem is that the 'default' is being alone (i.e., living alone). Could always go live in a shared house with random people - but that would only be as bad as going in the middle of a high street and hoping that one would feel less lonely. I'm sure you know what I'm talking about...

As it is, my only (?) option is to attempt to start a family... but, yeah, that is slightly difficult, isn't it?

Give it a try. I tend to feel happier when there are other people around me, even if i don't talk to them at all. I understand what you mean, but i don't think you can compare it to a high street. High streets there are lots of people, but none of them you know. They walk by and you don't see them again. Living in a shared house, at first it can feel that way. But these are people you live with, see daily and get used too. They become part of your life. I see it more like a group or a class. If you end up not liking it, you can always move out.

I did actually try it - I could never get acclimatized to the people, and ended up feeling really suffocated, metaphorically (wouldn't go out to the rest of the flat when they're out, etc.)

I don't think it's natural to be made to live with a bunch of random people in a relatively small flat. In the jungle they'd kill each other if they're that confined.

There are worse things than being alone. You can follow your own routine exactly how you want, and there's nobody else around interrupting or interfering with you. Being married for almost 10 years now, there are times I would LOVE to have that peace and quiet, a few days all to myself, without somebody always there yakking away at me.