Not liking change!

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how do you tackle the issue off 'not liking change' which often comes with autism

Do whatever I can to restrict change.

I'm not so sure it's change of any kind that's a problem. I don't mind changes I initiate. It's changes I have no control over I don't like. There are things you can do to limit the effect of externally generated changes. Takes some creative thinking though.

I hate change and breaking routine. I like to be prepared for it and have an agenda of what the change is and how it'll take place, I need warning. I hate last minute things. Slow transitions were always good for me. I'm a preschool teacher and some children can't stand change, they'll literally panic. Instead of saying, "Okay children clean up your toys now, it's time to go outside!." I'll keep giving them warnings like, "10 more minutes until clean up, "5 more minutes until clean up." When it's clean up time I get them to sit down quietly in a circle and call them one by one to put their outdoor things on so it's not a stampede.

Also, for the older children I write an agenda on the wall of what the day consists of, ex- 1) Quiet Activities
2) Snack
3) Wash up
etc... and for the younger children I make up a chart with pictures and I point to what comes next and I keep flipping the pictures from when we're done one of the routines.

I remember when I was a child I thrived on these routines and I want to try and do the same for the children I teach, I think it's good for any child, autistic or not to have a good routine.

I hate changes that mean I have to change how I do things. Like when they change the rules at school, when I've been so used to the old ones. And when I can't do something because of something else. Or when things that happen to other people affect me. I get through it somehow, though, with a lot of complaining, because I like complaining.

I am actually extremely flexible, especially for someone on the spectrum...

Here is how I do it...

First... change starts to appear like it's going to happen
Next, I start to warn people around me that it's really stupid to go off track at this point
They ignore me
change actually starts to happen
I throw a small fit inside of my head and resist and get pissed and just want to quit being a part of whatever it is
Then I complain to the people who are responsible or accepting of the change
They tell me it's too bad and that there is nothing I can do
I argue some more
I start to think of the new version and consider if its ok
I find something I like about the change and decide that the old way was insufficient and accept the change (even if the new stuff really is crap)
I push forward and make sure people dont try to change crap on me again dangit!


lol...

and that is how I deal with change



However when I decide on the change:

Something is consistent, but wrong
I figure out what is wrong
I tell people "this is wrong"
they ignore me
I tell them again "the world is going to end if we dont fix it"
they agree, but do nothing
I come up with some crazy plan on how to change it
they disagree and try to come up with some half-butt plan that really doesn't solve the problem but instead makes the problem look solved
I argue with them until they at least understand my idea
(if my idea is not their favorite:) someone who is NT and can be more smooth when they talk insists that their alternative but also bold plan is the only way to go even if it is far more difficult to execute, and is stupid, and horrible, and they should shut the heck up... ha ha ha
I start to change things to either my idea, or the person who overrides me idea
I feel tingly inside but satisfied that the new way is the only way to go and give up on the previous method or if my idea was overridden, I give up on my previous idea... no matter how right I was.

and that's how I get trumped in business meetings

I be the Mod that I am and I keep living my life like it's 1966. Who cares what people think of me for doing that? I live my life in a way that's healthy and easy for me.

hmmm, let's seeee....
i like positive change, or least having extra change in my pocketbook. but i hate negative change, or having no change in my pocketbook [or of being indebted]. you can guess that in this life, the latter is far more common a situation, than the former.