People who I went to school with...?!

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I'm wondering, is this normal for people my age? I'm 19. one of the girls from my school (who wasn't so nice to me) Has a baby. Another girl, who I was friends with in the 6th grade, but stopped being friends with because she was nasty (and I believe probably an aspie also) is engaged to another guy I knew. My middle school crush is engaged to a woman with a 9 year old son, and a not so nice old friend of my brothers is dating an old friend/enemy. He's five years older than her! from about 6th to ninth grades I had a group of "friends" who weren't really friends. at all. There is so much stuff I can't even count that happened. I was looking them up on facebook. is this normal for people my age to be engaged? or have children? or be dating older men?


Does that sound about right for the age group or....?

Well, there are people like those everywhere. Most people from my ex schools aren't married and don't have babies, but some do. One girl from my primary school is 23 now and she has two children, each with other man. Her life, her choice.

Well, here in England we have the highest teenage pregnancy rates in Europe . I knew loads of girls from my old school who had babies from 13-15 years old. The youngest who was 13 had the baby with a 30 year old man. Seriously my country has gone so downhill it's a joke. Alcohol is the most to blame; absolutely everyone has access to it, regardless of the age limit. Also loads get engaged too at around my age and younger.

This makes me think of that show "Skins." I saw only one episode, but it was enough to make me think - "Maybe this country is even worse than my own." Of course, I know I can't judge a country based on a ridiculous television show. But still, I wonder which is the more troubled in such regards.

I'm sad to say that the majority of the girls in my HS year had at least one child by the age of 18. It was a fad at the time to keep their boyfriends and something the HS staff was panicking over. Needless to say I never did get along with people my age.. I never had anything in common, can't understand that way of thinking.

The people I was close to in high school were not the type to get pregnant early. In fact, when I re-acquainted myself with them about 20 years later, most had non-standard relationships or none at all.

The most conventional of the group has two girls, but only after many years of marriage. Another had two girls, but his wife and one daughter were killed. He re-married recently. Another has a long time on-again, off-again girlfriend with a son from a previous relationship. Another has had a few boyfriends, but seems more content to be single (I think she is a mild Aspie). One who was a pretty girl is now a man. Myself and another have been permanently single. (I think we are the most Aspie of the group)

One girl I barely knew in high school friended me on Facebook and told me her story of dropping out due to getting pregnant and her subsequent abusive relationionships. I couldn't relate to her at all. Shortly after high school, I had a crush on a girl who had just graduated. She ended up dating some guy at work and getting pregnant within her first year of college. I found the whole incident fairly unpleasant.

I guess there are plenty of people who get pregnant around that age. That's kind of what all those hormones and instincts are trying to get you to do. I hung out with the weirdos and the nerds and none of us could get a date so it kind of prevented that whole problem.

Though I'm already in my middle twenties (and since next month I'll be able to call myself being in my late twenties ), to the best of my knowledge, only one girl with whom I was in one class in high school (my only friend in it) has a child - she got knocked up (and I thought her to be reasonable - she should have terminated this pregnancy, being unmarried and such). Out of my elementary school classmates, I saw one girl has a baby and a husband and another one was going to get married (her mom told my mom). I haven't checked if anything changed in this respect for some time, though.

i lost all contact with anyone I went to school with, no desire to see those people again

neither do I, but it doesn't stop one from wondering.

These are people who have no goals for themself. At nineteen, a person ought to be studying or training for the occupation that they will support themself on. Dating should be a fun diversion for the hard work that they are putting in to develop themself. It should never be a life goal! One should NEVER give over their whole life to the first ogre that comes along even if it is SHREK himself!! People seem to have no boundaries and don't really know where another person ends and they begin. They're quick to get engaged, quick to have children, quick to date older people because they are afraid of life on their own...so they do the paradox. They throw themself into life and drag everybody down with them because they didn't have the balls to mature first on their own - it was too scary. People and children are not safe ports to cling to...especially children. A child needs a strong, supportive parent who can financially support them and who has the maturity to emotionally support them as well.

I don't know if that's "normal", but I've noticed the same thing...though it's been quite a few more years since high school than you.

It depends entirely on where you live, in my country this doesn't happen as often, I only know of 1 girl in my school who got pregnant.

You do make a very good point, though. If these people are about 19, they're going about things way too quickly.

Oh it does. I'd rather not bump into anyone I went to school with, half of them are utter failures

I saw one chap I went to school with this morning crawling around town begging people for money. Stupid junkie he turned into, it was pathetic to watch.

I think it is deemed 'normal' amongst people of the current 20-26 year old group... Not all though... A lot of the people I went to school with have got engaged, married or have children and it really freaked me out when I found out! I did find out one of my ol' bullies is living in the roughest part of town with a baby and dressed like something from an Oxfam shop... That made me laugh when my friend told me!

I don't actively pursue information about people I encountered during my school years but as my mother has casual friendships or encounters with parents or aquantances of such people I'm exposed to certain bits of such information.

It strikes me as strange when I find that these people have children or are married, as I think of myself of an age where such things are matters of the future. Though the passing of time has always been something that eludes my understanding, in some ways I still think of myself as that small boy who refused to let go of the car door on his very first day of school.