ON HAVING NO SHIELDS

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IT SUCKS!
WE ALSO DON'T GET SWORDS
THAT SUCKS AS WELL !
To be serious, I have been emotionanally crucified twice recently,
Don't want to open this to discussion, just want to put it out there
may have to something something

What class are you? Use a two handed sword to make up for your lack of shield.

I actually do have a sword. Two of them.

I was actually reverefncining emotionally sheilds

I don't have any shields and swords, either. I'm not a fighter and I never was. I'm too much of a softy to toughen up.

I have a psychic reactive shield that runs energy off and around my personage and into the ground, but sometimes people can get through it.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KYUolurihOQ[/youtube]

I bet we could find a couple people here who either have or can build some photon shields.

Sorry. My husband and younger daughter are huge trekkies.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vKXBqs1flqQ[/youtube]

emotional shields

Like when last week,blah blah blah, i got crucified
and then on Friday, blah blah blah, i got crucified
and then on Sunday ,blah blah blah, I got crucified

They can just spew out nastiness...endlessly
I had to sit in a car with my brother!
for 20 minutes!
and he did not stop abusing me for 19 minutes
I didn't say anything for the whole trip
but that didn't stop him!

I got your point. I was just trying to put a lighthearted spin on it.

And if you didn't say anything for the whole trip, of course he didn't stop. You have the right and the responsibility to speak up for yourself. I don't know what was going on, or if he was fussing at you, or complaining at you, or insulting you, or whether or not it was actual verbal abuse or just something insulting and offensive, but what I do know is that when somebody is going on and on and on to/at you, and you just sit there and don't say anything back or tell them to shut up, then they won't shut up until they run out of stuff to say.

Don't expect someone to stop talking to you just because you don't answer or you feel that they should be able to tell that you are angry or offended. If they are mad at you, etc, then they don't care if you are angry or offended or what have you. Yeah it can be stressful and at times painful to get into an argument or a shouting match with someone who you care about, and for some people getting into an argument, shouting match or even simply saying "I don't want to hear this and I'm not going to listen or respond to you any longer right now" is something that they feel they can't do or really may not be able to do, but it's unrealistic to expect someone to stop what they are saying because you don't answer, or show that you are upset.

I'm not being mean about this, it just sounded like you expected him to be quiet because you gave him the silent treatment. That works sometimes, with people who are pretty sensitive to others feelings, emotions and moods, but not always even with them. As long as you don't speak up for yourself, you will continue to be upset when people offend or insult you. Frustration from that can add to the stress of the encounter and the frustration of not speaking up and of them not stopping can feed the anger that was brought on by what the person said, and vice versa, so it starts escalating inside you and your emotions can overwhelm you. If you tell them to hush and they don't, then at least you have the satisfaction of knowing that you made your displeasure known and that now the ball is in their court.

I hope you get things worked out with your brother and it all gets better.