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hi guys didnt know where realy to put this so ill put it here lol
basicly ive had a bad motorcycle accident on the 23rd of may i broke my back, neck, arm, sternum and a few fingers and also i cut my lower leg badly and also had a bad bump to the head and my helmet came off and i now have some nice bald patches haha.
anyways im back at home getting better slowly i can walk etc nearly better i think but i am very depressed i dont have much to do apart from watch films go on the computer and xbox sometimes a few friends visit. can anyone think of things to entertain me?

ive been to the doctors to see if there was any help i could get with the depression and thoughts of killing myself but i couldnt say anything about it because i felt i would have a bad melt down right there.
i think also this has to do with a girl thats started to talk to me again we hooked up before but it kind of failed because of the way she was treating me made me act even more like a aspie we kissed n other things but didnt have sex because i never tryed.
anyways we talk quite alot and she said a few times she had missed me and has likes me but everytime she is suposed to come see me she makes up all kinds of excuses and i think she may be seing other guys too she goes out drinking everyweekend so she will meet guys.
it has been about six weeks since she made her feelings known and still hasnt come to see me she works in this town and lives 5 mins drive away
i dont know what to about her as i like her and think id be alot worse without her but also my thoughts about what she could be doing are tearing me up inside.
any help or advice would be great guys

Sorry to hear about your accident and that you're feeling depressed now.
Maybe you could write down what you want to say to the doctor before you go and then you don't have to worry about being lost for words when you are there. I've done that before and found it useful. I don't have any experience of relationship stuff but I think that trust is an important part of all relationships and it sounds like she treated you badly which understandably makes it difficult to trust her. It also seems like she's giving out mixed signals and I suppose the best way to know what she is thinking is to try and talk to her about it but not easy I'm sure.
Sorry I can't be of much help but I hope you continue to make a good recovery and also welcome to WP.

Last edited by identity on 03 Aug 2012, 1:06 pm, edited 1 time in total.

On the relationship, I would suggest putting it on the back burner. It doesn't sound particularly promising and time and feelings invested may be for nothing ultimately. Easy to say, hard to do, but your effort would be better spent investing in something new rather then hanging on to something unlikely to get any better. If she starts to show genuine interest by all means procede, but don't hold your breath.

thanks identity i deffo write it down next time i seem to go in and out of bad moods though. and i have said about my feelings as i was ready to end it but she said she wanted to be with me too but didnt want to get hurt again.
ive been trying to put it on the back burner but shes the one messageing me all the time she has seemed to be alot more interested in me recently. im not going to try much atm as her grandad may die soon and he is quite important to her.
shes being alot nicer to me then last time and she apologised about her how she tret me before.
i think itd be best to find someone new but i think itll be a while till i can do that i dont have too much trouble with relationships but its hard to find someone i care about and not just about the balls deep action lol.
but ive had alot of time to think about things and have noticed i seem to do alot better in relationships when im not that interested in the girl so with another girl in the future thats going to be what i try.

i think what im gonna do now is not try to much but still speak to her then when im better i should find someone more suitable

I can't really speak for the relationship, as I know nothing of them. But keep your self distracted. When I was depressed I did whatever I could to keep my mind busy, I spent hours each day drawing or playing video games, learning math (at the times I didn't know much in the way of math).

Sounds like you pretty aware on the relationship. Be wary of the possibility of being strung out on a line. Texting would be an easy way for someone to do that. You may be one of several and just part of someones ego boost network. The key thing is her failure to show in person. That means, at least at this point she isn't being real.

On the accident and pretty serious list of injuries, I can relate a bit still being in a long recovery from my own accident. It sounds like you are however progressing very quickly and that is encouraging. I used a mix of personnal interests/hobbies and physical activitys. The main thing here is to have both mental & physical activity. Doing only one, which in most cases is the mental activity, can contribute to the depression. Physical Therapy didn't work for me, so I used working outside on my property which was really a mix of activity and a hobby I really like. In the beginning it was very frustrating being unable to do hardly anything, but I persisted in experimenting until I found something I could do. The first thing I came up with was use a water hose. I can definately relate to the low feelings though, because when other situational things were crappy in addition to injury/pain it felt overwhelming and I had suicidal thoughts more then once. I was also reluctant to bring that up with the doctors. I would say if you put it behind you, it doesn't necessarily have to be talked about, but if they (the thoughts) come back I would bring it up. If you remain depressed its not a bad idea to talk about that. There are medications that have helped many people thru difficult times & such may help you. If they ask if you have had suicidal thoughts just tell them the truth. When mine did I said yeah, I have had them, but when he asked if I had gotten to serious planning stage, I said no, he didn't press the matter any further. He was already treating me for anxiety/depression and I guess he figured he was already addressing it. I think that suicidal thoughts are by no means rare and with people that have had serious injuries it is quite common, and really pretty understandable. I think you are going to steadily improve though, and your age is definately on your side for mending.

yeah i think i am being strung along as im sure if she cared about me she would of come and seen me by now. im sure the only reason she started talking to me again is because she heard i nearly died she basicly said this once in a drunken message saying it made her realise how much she liked me it had been about 5 months since she finished me think we both had problems tbh.

one thing that makes me think she has someone else was when i posted on one of her fb status's saying she should come to mine she deleted it! this happend twice and has seemed to of restricted me on there now. its just hard in my situation atm tbh i could cope if i wasnt like this.

ive been trying to keep busy by planning my new workout plan to get back into shape i just get bored alot and end up thinking wouldnt it of been better if i had just died in the crash. the only thing thats keeping me going is thinking of getting back into the gym as thats the only thing in life that makes me feel good and my bike helped alot with my depression before the accident.

i used to have suicidal thoughts before the crash too mainly because whenever things are good and im happy it always f***s up and turns to s**t! i just want things to be good and to be happy