Why might you not like it?

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If say someone of the opposite gender to you harasses you, gives you a lot of attention or bothers you a lot and at the time you complain a lot about it. From a psychological point of view if that person started ignoring you why might you not like it?

Maybe because while one was complaining about it, they actually, kind of, liked it----and, all-the-while, felt, sort-of, flattered, that anyone liked them "that way"----and then, when they started ignoring the person, the person felt rejected; or, maybe, kicking themselves for, sort-of, liking the attention, and thus opening themselves up to the hurt (being ignored / rejected), that followed.

Because you wanted attention from them but not in that way? - they were over doing it to the point of you thinking that it was just an insincere act OR you may have been overwhelmed by it because you're not used to such "extreme" attention? Flirting and sexual bullying are very different. Flirting is patient. But then again, I'm not there watching this so I can't be certain. Did you ever observe a cat? You pet it for a bit, the cat purrs and enjoys it and then bites you and sods off. Then it comes back later to be petted. Cats like to control the petting. Did you want more control over the amount of attention you were getting?

This is better than my post!! More sound and and to the point. Jamesy, I think "Campin Cat" is correct!

THANKS, RightGalaxy!! I liked yours, as well----I hadn't thought about it being insincere.