I don't care what my kids do to their hair. It's just hair. My oldest son had spikey orange hair and spikey blue hair when he was 15. I thought it looked good. My oldest daughter doesn't go for the unnatural colors. She just likes highlights or possibly a lighter blonde. It turned out great for her. She loves it!
I also don't care about piercings, as long as they don't get their eyebrow pierced because that's entirely too gross. Oldest has his ears and his <ahem> pierced (I know about that one because he came home and cried and laid in the bed for a few days), oldest daughter has her ears done but she gauged them to 0's or maybe 00's for a while but they have closed back up to regular ear holes now. Youngest son has both ears an his lip pierced and has gauged them but let them go back to normal and youngest daughter has her tongue and about 4 holes in each ear and wants her nose done but REALLY wants her eyebrow done and the eyebrow is a NO! I'd never be able to look at her again, those bother me.
I've honestly never understood why some parents get upset over hair. It's just hair. It grows back. Piercings too, they close up. Now, I doubt I'd let one of mine get a tattoo under 16 or so and even then not in a place where it's obvious. But my youngest son's friend who is 16 has about three tats. One on his upper arm, one on his calf, and one on the inside of his forearm. I told him I thought the forearm one was a mistake. My son is gonna wait though, he's not stupid.
As for the dying colors, I remember back in the early 80's when punk was the thing and I had short, spikey Joan Jett mullet hair, and for a while I even had a faux hawk type deal. I used spray on colors which were popular then. Not just the Halloween kind they have now, they sold it year round back then. It would wash out after a couple of washings. My mother never tried to tell me what I could or couldn't do to my hair. The only thing she would say is "I wish you would keep it chin length with bangs because it frames your face"
I did make my girls wait until thy were 10 before their first haircuts though. I was a bit of a tyrant about that because my mother kept my hair short throughout my childhood and I had always wanted long hair. Both girls went and got it in a bob when I told them they could get it cut. And yes, I went with them and saved the ponytail that the girl cut off lol. I also saved my boys hair from their first haircuts.
I do dye mine, usually dark brown. When I tan, I dye it black because I tan so very dark so fast and it looks great that way. I've had mine blonde once, when I was 18. I looked like somebody put me in a washing machine with bleach and took all the color out of me all over. I was pale and washed out looking. Never again with the blonde. The wierdest one I have done is burgundy, which looked good and was fairly recent.
IdahoRose, I have to ask this. I think I saw your age as 21 and if thats correct I'm wondering how your mother has any say so over your hair, even if you live with her. What is the worst that she could do if you did dye it? She may not like it, but she won't love you any less. I've like all my youngest daughters stuff, except for the time she had the bangs white, the top section pink with blue tips and the entire under section black. I thought it was a bit much, but she liked it and that's what counts. She kept it about a month.
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