forgiving and letting go

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Did things that have happened to you a long time ago like when you were a kid still make you mad or upset on occasions when you think about them? For example when I was age 7-10 I had some neighbors that weren't nice to me, they singled me out and not let me hangout with them and excluded me from their fun activities, it used to upset me then, but it I find I surprisingly get somewhat upset even when I think about it now and I'm 28. Maybe I have a hard time getting over things. Do you feel you have this problem too?

My dad wasn't very nice to me. I don't want anything to do with him.

I got mad at my sister last week, we're on good terms now and laughing about it.

It depends on what you're remembering and how upset it made you.

Yes, I don't think everything is forgivable. And some things have such a negative impact, that they are impossible to get over.

It took me a long time for me to forgive everybody who did me wrong in the past. I forgave them, though.

I cant get over many things and recent things and things in my past

Most things. But sometimes they can be rekindled, unfortunately.

On that note; I have said in the past I have reached my breaking point with my mom and dad to the point of filing an NCO against both of them; you never know with me if will EVER get to that point.

I have a hard time forgiving I tend to stew about it for a long time.

My real father used to be abusive, physically and mentally. It's been so long, in 2003 or 2004, we got in a huge fight.. was physical, and we went a long time without talking. We've only spoken once since then, and since last week twice. I've learned and gained so much from then, and the ability to forgive. It's a great feeling to let things go.. who knows what the future has in store. Time does heal.

I don't know, myself. I was bullied a lot when I was in school, but I don't hold it against them because I realize that I was weird and that it was either me or someone else. But if I met them today I wouldn't trust them as far as I could throw them.

My brother called me a b***h yesterday, and I forgave him despite the fact he didn't apologize.

My parents divorced when I was in grade 7. I still haven't forgiven my mother, and when she phones to talk to my brother, I get nervous, upset and irritable.

I'm surprisingly forgiving and yet hold terrible grudges at the same time.

I'm still mad as hell at that crazy old coot who wrecked my car by running a red light, then yelled at me while I was freaked out and hyperventilating. I put a curse on him.
Nothing that bad, just may he step in dog poop, have a flat tire, never be able to find a parking place, trip over the sidewalk, fart in church every Sunday, lose his keys, drop his wallet down a storm drain, have stray dogs in his trash, etc..

I was picked on by many Valley Girls in high school. Valley Talk still drives me crazy to this day. If I could forgive those girls, I wouldn't be nearly as annoyed. I guess that explains my odd rant about NT females here and there.

I have a hard time forgiving, and even when I do forgive, you can be assured that I don't forget. My grandmother has hurt me many times with things she's said to me about people I loved or held in high esteem. According to her, she never said these things, and I am remembering wrong or simply dreamed it. I can assure you I remember perfectly. Perhaps if she were to apologize, I would forgive. Perhaps. But I'll never forget. And I will do everything I can to make sure she doesn't, either. She's said horrible things about my mother, who I not only love, but hold in very high regard. I suppose that she feared I would love other people more than her, and wanted me to think the worst of them. Perhaps she suffers from low self esteem. I certainly hope so. Because if she feels like she's been a good grandmother, well, when Elizabeth II managed to name her grandson a Knight of the Garter, then when is my grandmother who is an example to all going to name me a Lady of the Garter?

Same here.

Some folks try to remind me of bad things that have happened to me, and I just do not remember them. I do not even remember forgiving the perps!

Others deny bad things that have happened to me, even though I can relive every excruciating moment as if it just happened. Forgive and forget? No! Effing! Way!

And I'm talking about things that happened between 40 and 50 years ago.

I'm still incredibly annoyed about several things that happened in the past, half of which aren't even significant. My grudges will probably last a lifetime.

I forgive way too easily.

Yes.

There are things that are unforgivable.

And there are things I still get angry thinking about despite them not necessarily being big per se, but they're still emotional.

I don't easily if ever forgive and I don't forget.