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When someone says "you are setting yourself up for a very miserable life"

What does that saying mean in more detail? Does setting yourself up mean you are doing things that will result in you having a bad life 'indefnintly'? And if you don't stop whatever bad things you are doing you will not be able too undo the mess u created?


Need your views on this?

Well, first things first.

The statement is metaphorical and it indulges in a certain amount of hyperbole. You should not interpret figures of speech like this literally (but, of course, we are prone to do that).

I think a better choice of words would have been: "your choices may have bad consequences that you haven't foreseen."

Now, sometimes bad choices can lead to irredeemable consequences. Participation in extreme sports can lead to permanent injury, for example. Investing in a pyramid scheme can lead to the loss of one's life savings.

But other times, bad choices are redeemable. Using heroin is a really, really bad idea. But there are people who have successfully gone clean.

Some mistakes you can remedy quickly when you realise you've made a mistake. Some mistakes you are stuck with for longer and take more effort to undo. Some mistakes last for your entire life and can't undo them, ever. Better to avoid the longer lasting mistakes if at all possible. Advice from friends and family can help; but they can't live your life for you. In my opinion it is useful to listen to all advice available but then make your own well thought out decisions... and be prepared to face the consequences and take the responsibility for your own actions.