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my mom tried to stop me from humming today, while i was about to go into a room for a job interview, but i wasn't even in the room yet, plus, she could've told the guy that since i have aspergers, i can hum sometimes, and she lets my NT siblings get away with telling me what to do and nagging at me because they're "just kids". she also keeps using her hands when she talks to "make the conversation entertaining", and she lets dad tell me to stop humming all the time, because he's a "grown man".

Yaay! Somebody else who hums. Do you even notice when you're doing it? Sometimes I notice I'm humming and wonder how long I've been doing it before I realized it. I'm sure your mom is just trying to help you. When people bother me about my tics, I just smile and say "Thank you" and wait for them to go away, then start right back up.

no, you need to realize that aspies cannot tolerate being told to stop acting themselves.

Oh, I don't tolerate it. I do it anyway, almost defiantly. Just surrepetitiously.

oh ok, i misread your first response

Maybe your mom is concerned about you humming because she's worried that the habit will cause problems for you. She was probably worried that you might hum when you were in the interview or that someone would see you humming before you got in & mention it to the employer. Mentioning Aspergers to the employer might give him the wrong impression of you; he might assume Aspergers is something like mental retardation or that or that you might have too many meltdowns, too many problems interacting with others, miss work for psych appointments, cant adapt to any changes, overly sensitive to the work environment ect. I'm NOT saying that it's OK for your mom to keep nagging you about humming or any other Aspie or unique stuff about you; I'm just trying to explain her possible reasoning. My parents nag me about some of my weird quirks & mannerisms & it upsets me a lot sometimes when they tell me but they sometimes try to explain that it's because they are trying to teach me so I'll have less problems when I'm forced to interact with society. They do have a point because I got in trouble in school & was bullied & teased & stood out more when I would sing to myself & make other weird noises in class. Interacting with others is better when you can act less Aspie around them when it's important.

well, i know not to mumble in an interview, and i can adapt to people, but you're not acknowledging the way she did it. she told me to stop all so suddenly that i argued with her

she also lets my NT sibling tell me what to do and nag me because they're "kids", and lets dad treat my aspie movements like i have a problem all the time cause he's a "grown man".