Friends with a former bully

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I found out online recently one of my online friends I am talking to on a website was a bully in high school. He says it was very pathetic of him. He did it because he was bullied himself and weak so he did it to others thinking it was an okay thing to do. He doesn't bully anyone anymore.

I was also friends with someone else online who also bullied to fit in and kids stopped picking on him and he even became friends with his bullies who no longer bullied him, he was an aspie. He didn't bully anyone else either anymore.

To me the past is past and I don't really care if someone bullied or not when they were little. I've done it myself thinking it was something I was supposed to do and I did it to be liked and to fit in. It didn't work of course while other kids would pick on me and still had friends and were still liked. Plus I liked to tease and didn't know when to stop and I am sure I did other unintentional bullying instead of deliberate. But I am not that person anymore. Just as long as that person has changed, I don't really care what they did in the past.

So are you friends with any former bullies or would be?

I'm not, though I'd like to think I would be. I know I'm at a different maturity level now than I was then, what used to happen more often is that it would start out as a friendship and turn into a bunch of grief later on. But as it is, even the times I've looked up old friends I never had a falling-out with, it's very near impossible to resume the friendship. I'm just allergic to social networking sites I suppose