my parents are running my life

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I live by myself (in my parents basement suite) and do everything that I want to do, but my parents are always on my freaking case about everything.

my mom told me that by September 1st, I either have to be working, going to school or volunteering or they are going to raise my rent, cut off my internet etc, etc

which to me is not fair because its not easy looking for a job, I don't want to go to school and I don't want to volunteer.

the things I want to do involve money, the things I want to save up for and buy involve money and I cant do that if I sit behind a desk for 4 years for a degree I don't want. and with volunteer, its a waste of time.

Not trying to sound insensitive or anything, but your parents are providing you with basic necessities and are trying to usher you into independence. I'm only 17 and my parents do it all the time.

The only reason they're on your case about it is probably because they know you can do it. Just be glad you don't live in a small suburb like I do, because I'm pretty sure you have a lot more job opportunities out where you are.

Volunteer work is actually going to boost your chances of getting a job. And if you volunteer for the right things, it's not a waste of time at all. If you volunteer for something you're passionate about, you will soon realize just how nice it really is. It also shows employers that you are willing to work.

And one final thing: you can get by with a two year associates degree until you have enough saved for university, which means all that working will eventually pay off as long as you work at it.

Again, not trying to be a downer or siding with your parents, just being blunt.

am not saying this to be offensive but it is there house and they can do what they want technicaly.
theyre doing something called tough love it sound like,mum/dad did this to sister originaly;who is an aspie, it gave her the motivation she needed,this is probably what own parents are also hoping for.

it isnt a waste of time to volunteer,it is a type of job which in front of a boss stops people looking like theyve sat on their arse for so long, it is gaining experience and also contributing to society and unemployed benefits stuff-many countries wont let people have unemployed benefits if they havent ever worked.
theres a lot of things coud do volunteer jobs in,even things like working in a day center-or residential home for people with autism,working in a disabled riding school,working in something computer based etc.

woud personaly love to have a job staff have spent years trying to sort something through specialists like united response,NAS,mencap and remploy but our country [uk] has been closing down all specialist sheltered job places which makes it impossible for many of us with severe classic autism to ever get the chance to contribute to society, ridiculous that the reason theyre closing them is because of equality they say,hardly equality for one half of the spectrum.

remember,if are on any benefits,or getting money off parents,what is not to like about having extra money and being apreciated for the good work are doing? a job or volunteer job is so much more than just a job.

Sometimes my parents threaten to kick me out as well. I have a job, though. I've been trying to work with my parents on this issue because it is cheaper to live at home than in an apartment... plus I'd rather not live in the city... I like living in the country. In your case, it would depend on certain circumstances... like, are you and your parents arguing, and if so is it something over things that you do that you can fix? I always think that through. I've been in a similar situation, but not everything you are going through now.. I'm 21 right now, by the way. If I were you I would sit down with your parents and have a talk with them... try to work out a "plan" (like about living there and stuff, and if you're doing wrong... tell them ways you can and will change this). I hope things work out!

It's fair because it's their home, not yours, even if you are living in your mother's basement...


... unemployed...


... and unwilling to do anything about it.


Where will you be in 4 years without a degree; still living in your mother's basement?

You are twenty-five years old! I have no sympathy for you.