beneficii wrote:
My dad taught me about this when I was a teenager, that whenever you say "I'm sorry, but..." you are not really apologizing.
to acknowledge that a sentence must be launched with the words" i am sorry" indicates that the utterer of that sentence understands that what they are going to say will result in offense.
one can not claim "oblivious naivete" if they precede what they say with an "apology".
i do not care much for apologies. i have a very limited capacity to feel apologetic.
everything i do, i agree with even a year after. people who are "apologetic" are very likely to be insecure and unstable, and they are simultaneously expressive, and they say things that they later vehemently disagree with and apologize for.
what is an "apology". is it a conscious ego reduction like a weak wolf lying on it's back to show it's throat in submission?
i have no apologies in stock, and i can not think of why i should ever apologize for anything i ever did.
i am capable of crude self remonstration for treading on tender peoples ideas, but i still can not see how they have a road that i can travel on toward their hearts.